Envy is a terrible force! Prayers from enemies and evil people.

It is known that a person is a social, social and often sociopathic being. Living surrounded by other people, interacting with them, he constantly consciously and subconsciously compares his achievements and successes with their achievements. If at the same time your mood suddenly deteriorates, a feeling of discontent or even inferiority appears, know that this is envy! This is an inner feeling, which is very difficult to cope with an effort of will. This is a brain signal - "You turned out to be worse than others!"
And if it's worse, then it's weaker - it threatens your safety in the long run. It is shameful to be weak, the feeling of envy is also not noble, so they try to hide and disguise it, which is not always possible and breaks out in the form of anger.

Each person in life performs several roles at once - in the family, at work, public life and has its own social status - the assessment of others and self-esteem, often not coinciding. Each has its own niche and "every cricket know your hearth", otherwise there will be conflicts. Who is who? - "hu from hu", this question is one of the main ones in human communication and affairs. Much depends on this status - behavior, speech, lifestyle, business contacts, authority in one's circle and even in the family and in society as a whole.
The well-known literary episode between the elite Panikovsky and the ordinary thief Shura Balaganov is very characteristic in this regard. For a long time they found out from each other, poking his chest with his fist - "Who are you?" Find out your status in life.
There are also status evaluation priorities. And here it is not without paradoxes - a pop singer with a good voice (like Kirkorov) is much more popular than a major scientist or designer. And the earnings are much higher - the emotional joy from the entertainer is estimated higher than the work of the distressed scientific and technical partnership.

If the results of comparing statuses are not in your favor, then a feeling of discomfort and dissatisfaction with yourself inevitably arises in your soul. A bad wife often nags her husband for this reason - "everyone has it, we don't." Sometimes it adds up. They say that even Brezhnev was pissed off by his wife - her fur coats were worse than those of other Kremlin wives! Already the second human sin - fratricide was committed because of envy. Cain killed Abel. But he was created in the Image and Likeness! It turns out - the Almighty also envied someone? To whom? Another Creator from another Universe?
In its destructive power, envy is on a par with meanness. However, meanness is also a product of envy.

Envy is a vice, envy is bad - it's stress, psychotrauma. How to get rid of it? And should I get rid of it? It turns out that animals also envy each other, especially dogs. So is it natural? The question is why are we jealous? Psychologists have not yet figured out the roots of envy. Let's try to figure it out ourselves. It is unfortunate that someone is superior to us, has great material wealth, has achieved more in life. Anger, resentment, a sense of injustice, dissatisfaction with oneself - all this is in envy. In most cases, this is a very difficult and destructive feeling for the human person.

The roots of theft, robbery, meanness are also in envy. There is a saying - "let my cow die, if at the same time two cows of a neighbor die." Oh yes, the neighbor got caught! Or are they all like that? During the time of Stolypin, some hardworking peasants left the community, received their allotment of land (cut) and built a solid house (farm) on it and lived more prosperously than communal peasants, since the land was their own and better used. So the rest of the peasants for this fiercely hated the farmers and set fire to the farms, saying - "We don't need smooth ones, let everything be rough!"

Sadly, every person in his life experienced a feeling of envy. To say that you do not feel envy at all is to say about yourself that you are not a person and are not capable of analytical thinking. Remember how sometimes after the news about the success of acquaintances, relatives or employees, for some reason, the mood drops, annoyance, irritation, resentment for the whole world appear for no apparent reason. Attacks of melancholy, depression are often the result of envy and low self-esteem. Envy knows no barriers, they envy even friends and family. Even Faina Ranevskaya, with her sharp tongue, uttered this feature of our psychology: "You can forgive your loved ones everything, but not success!"
Envy is a comparison. Envy is competition. Envy is resentment and pain due to the fact that you turned out to be worse, failed to achieve this, there is better than you.
Is it possible to unequivocally assert that this feeling carries with it only negative? Of course not - envy is a powerful incentive to overcome the backlog, to achieve the same that others have achieved. The famous Italian director Fellini wrote in his memoirs that he envied Mastroianni when he bought a new car and immediately bought the same one. But they were friends.

Envy is different. There are even types of envy - white, black and ... female. White envy is a feeling of a kind of admiration for the abilities and successes of another. It carries a powerful impulse to action, the desire to achieve the same as the object of admiration. In this case successful person do not wish bad, but only present it as a kind of standard and strive to repeat or surpass its achievements. This is an incentive for your own victories and accomplishments, when the energy is directed in a peaceful direction and helps, not destroys.
White envy often turns into pride for another - who is stronger and more successful than you. But the difference in comparisons must be significantly greater in order for the object of pride to become an idol. This phenomenon is well known in sports, art, and various shows.
Before Galina Vishnevskaya they knelt down and thanked even the famous singers of world renown - here adoration is mixed with envy. But if the idol does not justify the trust, blunder - so he will be ruthlessly trampled and there will be no trace left. This is revenge for the former adoration - envy with hindsight.

Everything is much worse if the so-called black envy has taken possession of you.
A person who envies “in a black way” seeks, at least in his thoughts, to humiliate, destroy, harm the object of envy. For some reason, he transfers the blame for his failures to this person. This feeling is extremely dangerous not only for the object of negative emotions and bad wishes, but also for the envious person himself.
A malicious envious person eventually acquires a whole bunch of diseases: liver problems, stomach ulcers, hypertension. The disease goes inside, it is dangerous. The envy of the authorities is very dangerous - they will not tolerate this for a second, if it suddenly turns out - you are smarter than him! No wonder they say - there is nothing worse than guiding ignorance. In general, envy clearly reflects the level of a person's internal culture, the lower the level, the blacker the envy. People are not born vile and envious, our existence makes them so - the hardships of life, the lack of goods, the unfortunate fate of the villain.

Meanness is the sister of envy. How many crimes were committed under the lisp of this little sister - do not count. Maybe the Second Coming of Jesus will cleanse people from this filth? Messiah Woland failed and showed only the incorrigibility of people even by magical powers. Divine influences are needed. The ROC is trying, but the results are not to be seen. Embezzlers wear a cross, but they are engaged in theft. God will forgive if you make the priest rich, pray well and repent! So they think, but the meeting with the Lord is inevitable. Judgment will be harsh.

There is envy among great personalities - Stalin envied Trotsky's erudition, Bukharin's popularity. Tupolev envied Ilyushin, Yakovlev - Lavochkin, Shpitalny - all gunsmith designers. There are many examples, we are all people and we stand for each other. Men envy success in their careers, knowledge, titles, wealth, a beautiful wife, success in society, among women, a happy family, a fashionable car.
There are also funny features - psychologists highlight such a phenomenon as female envy. It is believed that it is different from the male: more petty, sophisticated and insidious. It is especially developed in the women's team. They envy beauty, youth, a new handbag, dress, jewelry. At the same time, outwardly everything is decent - they admire and praise, they kiss hypocritically on the cheek, and indignation boils in the soul - why not me, why not me! Hypocritically condemned behind their backs.
There is also envy with the opposite sign - this is gloating about someone else's misfortune. Most recently I experienced it myself - from a very "friendly and decent" woman. I didn't expect it and was shocked. But he figured out the reason - it was the reaction of previously hidden envy.

And a man is generally ashamed to envy - this is not a man's business! Dare, achieve, do not be a rag. White envy for him is a powerful incentive for victory, but honest, not gangster. And if you break down, drink down - Khan to you, you are no longer a man. The strong also break, life can be cruel. But there is no other way out - "fell, squeezed out" and again into battle!
This is where another feature of our psyche manifests itself - weak-willed and weak-willed individuals endure the blows of fate more easily than strong-willed ones, lulled by success. Looks like the weak have a certain "immunity" to failure. The psychologist Burno writes about this in his "The Power of the Weak". Weaklings know how to mobilize, bit by bit collect the hopeless remnants of their former well-being after the storm and again build their house of happiness like ants ruined an anthill. And often they come out victorious from a situation in which a strong and strong-willed person has broken down, dropped his hands. Often this leads to the restoration of the former order. Life is not unambiguous.

Envy is a very interesting psychological phenomenon, little studied. Its history is ancient, for it stretches from our animal origin and is also inherent in modern animals, especially noticeable in dogs. Envy is not alone, it works in conjunction with other feelings - gloating, humiliation, self-flagellation, the desire to become better (white envy), etc.
There are also extreme forms of manifestation of black envy - wrecking, the physical destruction of the source that caused envy.
They say that many crimes have been committed in the world on this basis (examples are Salieri, negative characters from Hamlet and many others). There are countless crimes on Earth committed out of envy - after Cain there were centuries-old palace intrigues and civil strife of all times and peoples - thousands of poisoned, stabbed, drowned and burned, sent to prison and exile.

Envy is always objective and is caused by the contrast of well-being or well-being. In the artistic environment, people of art, most of the squabbles occur precisely for this reason. Galina Vishnevskaya's talent was envied by almost everyone at the Bolshoi Theater - Maksakov, Arkhipov, Milashkin, because the talent was given to her by God - she had a natural voice (maternal gypsy blood) and constantly improved it. Right from the street, she came to the competition of the Bolshoi Theater and in the first round she became a candidate for the leading roles. How can you not be jealous? But they also loved despite her obstinate character - Bulganin, Rostropovich and others. This is stated in her memoirs - in the book "Galina".

Every cloud has a silver lining, envy is a powerful incentive to intensify action, achieve success and prosperity. Doesn't let you calm down. But there are also extremes - the loss of the ability to envy, social atrophy. Homeless for example. Oblomov also did not envy anyone, he lived in his shell and was satisfied with life. Are there any lucky people now?

(The article partially used material from the Internet without references).

We, women, sometimes do not even imagine how often others envy us. You won’t believe it, but not only ancient neighbors or a saleswoman from the meat department can be malicious envious people, but also our loved ones, whom we trust. How many people stumbled over the envy of their best friend, who took and broke up the family. And how many more women have suffered from envious colleagues at work? Imagine, sisters, brothers and even your own mother (who else can be dearer and closer?) sin with this vice.

I would very much like to touch on the topic of envy in our modern life: what it is, why it is dangerous, from whom and how to protect yourself, and why young children are most vulnerable.

What is envy and why is it dangerous?

Envy is a very negative and all-consuming feeling that eats a person from the inside and pushes him to mean deeds. They envy beauty, success, a happy marriage, good earnings - everything that has value in the eyes of people deprived of these benefits. It is because of her that people often curse each other and destroy not only other people's energy, but also their own.

This sinful feeling is dangerous because it begins to control the life of the envious person, and he does vile deeds to annoy the one whom he envies. In addition to purely moral and physical negativity, there is another danger for the victim - a weakening of the biofield, that is, energy. The more a person’s energy protection weakens, the more often he gets sick, the less success comes into his life, the worse relationship in family. Vital forces disappear from his body under the influence of the negative messages of the envious person, especially if the victim has constant contact with the pest.

Children are most susceptible to envy. They are very easy to jinx and spoil, because their energy is still weak, and the Guardian Angel has not gained enough power to protect him from evil. No wonder our great-grandmothers used all sorts of conspiracies and charms from envious eyes and bad tongues. In fact, there are not only conspiracies, but also church prayers that help maintain a balance of power when dealing with an envious opponent.

Who is jealous of us?

So, protecting yourself and your family from envy is not only possible, but necessary. How to do this and how to generally determine who wishes you unkind? I am sure that any person who is able to listen to his feelings will feel where the “wind blows”. “Symptoms” can be too frequent stares in your direction, attempts to be sarcastic and offend, spreading gossip and rumors, open actions in order to annoy in the absence of provocations on your part.

I can give you a few examples from my own experience:

Friend. She regularly discouraged me from buying those things that suited me perfectly. How many times I did not listen to her, and then brought my sister, brother, aunt to try on a dress or trousers - everyone refuted her opinion. She gave me no less bad advice about young people. Those who in all respects were worthy candidates, in her words looked like completely negative characters.

Colleague. I couldn’t understand in any way who was so stubbornly telling everyone at work that I never put money in a common pot for the holidays (this was how it was with us), although this was a blatant deception. Then I didn’t understand who spread the rumor that I had lost the key to one important drawer, although I had never held it in my hands in my life. When, nevertheless, the sources of lies were found, I analyzed the behavior of the spreader of rumors from the moment we met. She always looked at me intently and did not forget to give out another portion of sarcasm about my appearance.

Native grandmother. The grandmother has two daughters. The eldest daughter (my mother) successfully married and has an apartment, a loving husband, two children - a simple woman's happiness. The less fortunate groom made up the younger party. They wound up on business trips and rented apartments, were able to master only one child, and acquired their housing only by the age of 40. Both my mother and I always felt that my grandmother was extremely negative about any positive events in our family, but then, how she rejoiced at the slightest advances in her youngest daughter's life! That granddaughter was the most intelligent, good and decent, but in me and my brother my own grandmother tried to find some kind of wormhole and procrastinated for years.

If you have similar examples in life, then I congratulate you, you are surrounded by envious people from whom you need to defend yourself.

We protect ourselves from envy without pity and regrets!

I have a scheme of personal protection developed over the years from such malevolent lovers to feed on other people's happiness:

• We reduce the distance between you and them as much as possible. Even if it is a close relative, try to minimize contact.
• In direct communication, do not let the envious person touch you, your clothes, things. Avoid physical contact.
• When insolently examining your person, also look intently and brazenly at the pest without looking away. Get the person to look away.
• With such people, it is important to learn to visualize invisible protection. For example, I imagine that there is a dense glass dome around me, from which black sharp spikes emanate in all directions, or an iron wall surrounded by water. Why water? Because it washes away negativity very well.
• Do not try to culturally listen to the flattery of such a person. Cut it off on the approaches. Does he admire your wonderful hair? You, in turn, say that he has them even better and try to touch with your hand. A few reflected attacks, and the envious will fall behind.
• Do not talk about your personal life, show off your successes less, do not try to stand out from the team so as not to attract a lot of negative messages from other employees. I knew a woman who lived luxuriously on the maintenance of her husband and worked in the department social protection exclusively for experience. She liked to invite a manicurist to her work at lunchtime and gave almost a third of her salary for nails. I think you can imagine how many snake heads hissed behind her.

The best protection will be a magpie about the health of your envious person and you. It will not be superfluous for you to be cleansed through a prayerful petition in the church, but the higher forces will direct the wrecker and guide him on the true path - his thoughts will stop returning to you.

Do not forget to order prayers for children, because it is even easier to spoil them, and sometimes our negativity passes to them “by blood”. And remember, the fewer photos we put on public display, the stronger our health!

Envy is perhaps one of the most terrible and destructive feelings that people can experience. Anger, anger, even aggression, is for the most part a short-term emotion that cannot be reveled in purely physically. for a long time. As for envy, everything is exactly the opposite. Envy arises, warms up, swells and pulsates. Envy lives a real life and, like a diseased organ, at some point can lead to a serious deterioration in a person’s condition. Most often, this “dignity” affects women.

To begin with, I really want to understand what envy is? Envy is extremely unpleasant feeling that a person experiences when looking at the accomplishments or successes of another. Envy always arises at the thought that "I deserve this more, but someone unworthy gets all this instead of me." Envy blooms in full bloom when a person is sure that he is better, smarter, more beautiful, more talented, and indeed “just get hurt”, and everything falls from the sky for someone. And this “someone” needs to do some dirty tricks and disgusting things so that he loses his “undeserved prize”. On the other hand, if the object of envy loses this prize, then the envious woman will not get anything anyway, so why all these convulsive actions? There is only one answer: if I don’t have it, then let her not have it either. If I couldn't, then let no one else succeed!

How jealous at work

“A friendly team and a healthy atmosphere” is usually warmly promised only when applying for a job, just for the very vacancy that was formed as a result of the fact that some person could not stand the “friendly team and healthy atmosphere” in the office and gave up. Envy at work is the most common thing, it has always been, is and will be. Some envy silently and dirty tricks on the sly, others (if this is your guide) openly.

What to do if you become the object of envy?

Psychologists advise to rejoice, because they envy only those who have achieved success. On the other hand, how can one rejoice if negative emotions literally knock the ground out from under your feet? In addition to "joy", psychologists have more tips on what to do for those who have become a victim of envy:
- if your friends are jealous, then your friendship has come to an end. It is better to politely part and preserve the memory of the beautiful joint events than delay this process and become enemies;
- if close people envy, then the most important thing is to convey to them how important their support and understanding is to you. If you are lucky and heard, be grateful and grateful. Well, if not, you will have to start an independent life away from home;
- if the husband is jealous and your heart-to-heart talk has brought nothing but his smile, then there are only two ways out. Or go into free swimming, or accept its rules of coexistence.

As for the envy of colleagues, then just do not pay attention, these are not the people you should worry about.

If you yourself are jealous of someone now, then psychologists advise you to work with your own self-esteem. It's probably overpriced for no reason. And yet, someone else's success always seems undeservedly easy, so what prevents you from following the same path and achieving the most unprecedented heights?

What I will say now, most likely, you will not like it very much, but envy is always not about the other person. Envy is always about you - about YOUR feelings that you are ignored, not appreciated, not noticed or not loved, and behind all this, YOUR frustrated desire to control others - what they do, what they want, how they are accepted, who loves them - and ideally, you want to control the universe itself.

Ai. This is a strong medicine. Envy as an attempted rebellion of the individual "me" against its greatest threat - unconditional love.

Admit it - someone else (still) gets all the attention, love, praise, success, fame, and you are left, in the cold of loneliness, you are forgotten, the loser - and you are not special at all. Jealousy sees others as a kind of rival, an enemy, a threat to your path. She sees life as a huge competition and happiness as a scarce commodity. And once, following this path, you meet millions of rivals, millions of barriers to happiness...

Envy makes your peace dependent on other people or something else. She says “I can't be calm while others…….(fill in the blank yourself). You give others power over you and then resent that they took that power away - which they never did. You yourself gave it to them, giving them your attention.

Envy easily arises when you feel insecure, insecure, doubt your path. And to avoid facing your own pain, and to be honest about your insecurities, you shift your focus from yourself to others, and start comparing, juxtaposing and mentally warring. You want what you think they have. You ask "Why doesn't this happen to me?" I am I am. I I I I I I I I. The ego thrives on comparison and increases suffering.

Where and when can healing begin? Only in the here and now.

Begin by pivoting to your only place of power, the present moment. Admit your feelings deeply. Feel how envy burns, burns, hurts, pulsates in your neck, chest, stomach. Feel this power, this volcanic power of life itself, the power that creates universes. Put aside the word/label/concept "jealousy" and feel directly the raw sensations without judgment and without trying to "improve" them. Feel alive. Connect with your own insecurities, doubts, feelings of helplessness. Feel this good old friend - the urgent need to control the world where you are.

And don't turn away! When you turn away from your direct bodily experience, separation sets in and, as a result, fear. Slow down. Start illuminating the painful and forgotten corners of yourself with awareness. Give tenderness and kindness to this lost child inside you, who has never been noticed, who has always longed for love and understanding, who has always felt far from life and happiness (joy). Someone who would destroy the universe just to get attention. Feel the purity (innocence) there...

Perhaps from a place of deep acceptance of yourself as you are, you will find empathy for those whom you used to call "enemies." You may even be able to rejoice in his/her happiness and accomplishments. And most likely, you will become a part of his / her “abundance”, and not an accuser. Perhaps you can learn something from your ex-enemies, or at least they will become your inspiration. Or, you will forget about them all, stop trying to understand their experiences (experience) and go your own way! And you will see that there is enough room in this universe for everyone going their own way, for everyone looking for their own happiness, for everyone dancing their own dance. And for you, including.

Joy (happiness) will not come from trying to walk someone else's path or from trying to keep another from his path. And it certainly won't come from trying to take someone's happiness. Jealousy, when you resist it or blindly attack it, will hurt you and those around you and further create conflict and division. But, once realized, understood, accepted, loved, envy can open your heart even more, leading you to a place of great humanity, freed from this terrible need to control everything and everything around.

Let envy serve as another peculiar an invitation to acceptance. Let it open your heart in the here and now. Let him teach you humanity and calmness. Slowness. Let it serve as a reminder never to deny yourself again. Know that you have never been a victim except in your own perception.

Jeff Foster