The child is afraid to go to school. Why are you afraid to go to school? A teenager is afraid to go to school what to do

under pressure

Who does not know the aching feeling: the teacher is moving around the classroom, coming to your desk and ... stops! The soul goes to the heels, the hands get cold, time stops. And the point is not that from time immemorial the educational process has been organized in such a way that the teacher can do everything: demand, evaluate, scold, call the parents, and the student - nothing, except to study well. The trouble is that many teachers use “non-standard” methods of “pedagogical influence” in their practice. For example, collective punishment. Petrov did not learn the lesson - the teacher screams. But not only on Petrov, but on the whole class: everyone should feel guilty! It is not surprising if at such a moment even excellent students begin to bite their lips with excitement. For another teacher, the main weapon is irony. It always hits the sickest. Therefore, when the glance stops at the student, he is all pressed into the desk, dreaming of quickly dissolving and becoming invisible.

What to do if the child is afraid to go to school because of a particular teacher? Try to be the first to take a step forward, tell the teacher about your trouble. Maybe he doesn't attach special significance its ironic tone and does not suggest what effect it has on the child. Always make direct contact with the teacher. The teacher will either help to cope with the problem, or will be indifferent (hostile) to your frankness. In any case, such communication will allow you to look at what is happening from a different angle, to better understand the situation in which the child finds himself.

Psychological pressure gives rise to a huge variety of fears: before the inevitable need to answer, before the danger of looking ridiculous in the eyes of your classmates, before the mark.

It is incomprehensible: after all, the mark is just a number, which, as a rule, does not mean anything. But it is she who has magical powers: fearing to get a deuce, children do not want to go to school, because of deuces, many parents become enemies for their own child.

Today, fortunately, there are schools that have given up grades altogether. Do you think children in such schools study worse, try less? Nothing like this! It’s just that parents and children themselves, free from fear of digital, begin to understand: the point of studying is not to earn more good grades, but to learn new things and work on your shortcomings.

I leaf through the diary of a sixth grader: “Comrade parents! Not done homework. Take action!”, “ Test– 2”, “Disgraceful behavior!” Does this boy love his school if no one here loves him? Perhaps he is in no hurry to show his diary to his parents. Hides it, lies, gets out. Fear became part of him. He is always between two fires - school and home. How to help him get out of the vicious circle? Be patient. Let there be no “fire” at least at home. And, despite the fiery appeals that sound from the diary, become an ally of your child. In any situation, in case of any failure, he has the right to count on your support and help.

The modern school has a whole "remote control" for putting pressure on the child and his parents. There are buttons “threat of expulsion”, “division into weak and strong”, “additional exams” - but you never know how many such “buttons” can be invented! Don't let yourself be drawn into this game. Always put the interests of the child first.

Enemy number one is boredom

How do children feel when they go to school for the first time? Happy! They were promised a wonderful, bright, almost adult world! They become first-graders and wait with gambling inspiration: now the most interesting, long-awaited will begin. But it doesn't start and doesn't start. And every day the children are convinced: learning is boring. They consider themselves deceived (their parents shouldn't have drawn the perfect image!), so in high school enter with a feeling of deep disappointment. It is at this age that problems with discipline arise, buttons are placed on the chair for teachers, lessons are disrupted. In high school, there comes a time of sluggish apathy and total absenteeism.

To avoid such a sad prospect, often ask your child when he comes home from school:

What was interesting today?
If he immediately starts talking about some lesson or event, everything is in order. If he waves his hand hopelessly:
As always - nothing! is a serious alarm.

Some children are able to complete the tasks of teachers regardless of whether they are interested in it or not. They are just performers. But there are children for whom boredom is akin to torture. The longing in the eyes and the irresistible yawn are so clearly imprinted on their faces that they cannot help but irritate the teacher.

When the ceiling in my apartment began to shake, and the sounds of heavily falling objects interspersed with squeals, I knew: up there, they were doing their homework in mathematics.
- What is a fraction? – clearly heard from above. – Nu deli same finally, infection!
Neighbor Vita helped her son do his homework.
- I'm all on my nerves! she complained at the meeting, swallowing valerian. - My boyfriend is smart. Everywhere - on "4" and "5". As it comes to mathematics - it becomes dumb and that's it!
Maybe the teacher is bad? I timidly suggested.
Vita raised her eyebrows in surprise.
- Who cares?
And again the ceiling in my apartment is shaking...
But suddenly a week is quiet, another ...
To us new mathematician come! Vita said. - My Lenka now solves problems himself - you won’t tear it off!
War is over. Nothing is known about the victims. Maybe it's Lenkina nervous system, traumatized by constant scandals, or maybe a relationship with her mother that will never become as warm as before.

Is the child to blame if he is not interested in learning? I think parents are able to determine where their child is lazy, does not want to make an effort, and where he is simply bored. Do not scold him for what he is not guilty of. After all, he cannot find himself good teacher or explain to the bad one how to work. Creative people need an appropriate environment. Fortunately, now parents have the right to choose the school in which their child will study. Search before it's too late. Until your son has forgotten how to listen, until he has burning eyes and a sympathetic heart. Boredom kills it all.

Unhook my label!

Grandmother! I am an idiot! - Masha said, returning from school.
- Who told you that? Grandma threw up her hands.
- Chemistry teacher!
Tomorrow Masha will hear the same word from a physics teacher, then classmates will pick it up, and soon the girl herself will believe in it. Will begin to be shy to answer and be reluctant to go to school.

How diverse is the assortment of school labels: “hooligan”, “truant”, “weak”, “gray”, “loser” ... Such labels are not at all harmless. It used to be just Zhenya, but now it’s “difficult”. And Zhenya behaves accordingly, and everyone around him is biased. "Not! - say the teachers, - Petrov can not on "4". He can only on "2". No matter how hard Petrov tries, he cannot see higher than “3”. Does he want to go to school after that? No one notices the talents hidden in Petrov. After all, the teachers of both Leo Tolstoy and Albert Einstein once missed the mark, hanging on them the label of gray threes.

There are no mediocre children, and no one knows the true abilities of their child better than parents. The best way struggle with a negative school label - to create conditions in which talent would be revealed. Find a circle, a sports section, a studio - let him choose what he wants to do. Then the child will know: I can’t study for five, but I can draw well (dance, play the violin). He will not be focused only on school and will stop worrying about the label sewn on him.

Me and hostile "others"

Ezhikov was afraid to go to school from the first day. When the teacher, getting acquainted with the class, said his name, the children laughed. And Ezhikov was so upset that he began to cry. That's how his reputation was built. The situation was aggravated by the fact that Yezhikov was really shivering all the time: either from a loud noise at recess, or from a blow on the shoulder. This, of course, could not escape the keen eyes of classmates. Ridicule, bullying became the boy's constant companions. At first, Ezhikov cried, begging his mother to leave him at home. Sometimes she agreed. But Yezhikov soon realized: one missed day does not change anything, because tomorrow will inevitably come and you will have to go to school again.

So five years passed. Trying to protect her son, the mother came to the class to “sort things out” with the offenders, quarreled with their parents. But that only hurt more. The mother was convinced that the reason lies in the evil children, who, as if by choice, were all in the same class. She achieved a transfer to another class. But fame ran ahead of Ezhikov, and here he was no better.

Frustrated, my mother turned to school psychologist. The specialist's diagnosis boiled down to the following: Alyosha Yezhikov has no experience of communicating with peers. Before school, the boy was brought up in sterile conditions, almost in a flask. Kindergarten he did not visit. I usually walked hand in hand with my grandmother at a slow pace. It is not surprising that Ezhikov himself soon turned into a little old man.

The psychologist began to work with the boy, analyzing problem situations, which emerged from Yezhikov, suggesting how best to behave. Alyosha went through psychological training. Much has changed in him, but the burden of the “former Yezhikov” turned out to be too heavy. Therefore, the psychologist advised to transfer the boy to another school. He believed that Alyosha was ready for a decisive breakthrough.

Ezhikov met the first of September of his seventh grade at a new school. Hearing his name, the guys laughed. Alyosha was already familiar with this - he just grinned. Now he is confident in himself - there were no enemies around.

Broken relationships with classmates are a common reason why a child does not want to go to school. Try to call him to frankness and figure out: maybe he is inclined to oppose himself to the team? Or, having leadership ambitions, is he dissatisfied with his current position in the class? Maybe he had a conflict with a specific student or is oppressed by an offensive nickname? Analyze, discuss with the child everything that worries him. It is better to resolve any conflict within the school, considering the transition to another as an extreme way out, because where is the guarantee that the child will not encounter the old problem there too?

Remember little Pavlik, who, when he saw the school, immediately ran away from his mother home? Parents managed to find out the reason. Sobbing, Pavlik told them terrible secret: the teacher does not like him! No, she does not scream, does not swear - she simply does not like. It took considerable effort for the parents to explain to their son that the teacher should not love him, that in life there will still be many adults who will not love him. And there is nothing terrible in this, it is normal.
But the child's soul can not reconcile. She still wants love.

When to look for another school

1. In case of deliberate persecution of the child by the teacher.
2. If the school does not provide a full-fledged educational process(there are no teachers in one or more subjects, a weak level of teaching).
3. If the methods that are practiced in this school are contrary to your views on education and damage the psyche of your child.
3. In case of hostility from all classmates.
4. If high demands and overload are detrimental to the health of the child

The current programs for educational institutions are continuously updated and modified. The material is not easy and students may simply not perceive it. Quite often it happens that a child listens to well-read information, but is unable to understand it, so it is necessary to analyze the material covered at school already at home. If in the elementary grades it is still possible to understand what is at stake, then in the older ones it is no longer easy. So the child starts to be afraid educational institution, since the homework is not done, the teachers put deuces, and the parents chastise for them. The psyche of a teenager cannot stand such stress and there is a fear of the school, which needs to be disposed of urgently.

Fear of school may arise due to the inability of the child to master the educational material

What is School Fear

The fear of going to school is called didaskaleinophobia, it is characteristic only of schoolchildren and appears only at the time of class. In essence, the concept of didaskaleinophobia literally stands for "fear of school". Formally, such a phobia may not immediately declare itself in full. Often parents perceive the reluctance to go to school as laziness, a desire to take a walk or do something else, but not educational process. But it is precisely at these moments that one should not turn away from the problem, it is necessary to take it with all responsibility and find real reason skipping lessons. This is especially pronounced in elementary school, because. the child has not yet fully adapted to the training and requirements, and heavy workloads without family support can lead to the appearance of a phobia

The mistake of parents is that they consider a phobia to be a manifestation in all spheres of a child's life at once, and fear appears in a particular case. If you eliminate the irritant, then the fear goes away by itself. It is impossible to neglect such manifestations in a teenager. The longer time and attention is not given to the problem, the more strongly it grows into consciousness. Later, it can develop into severe anger, which is associated with a panic state and depression.

Signs and symptoms of having a phobia

The most complete and accurate description of the fear of school was described by Khersov. He believed that the problems began with questionable complaints about the educational institution, or with her forced attendance. Later, this develops into a complete refusal to go to school, not taking into account persuasion from the parents. How closer time to go to an educational institution, the more the behavior and mood of the child changes. Many children say that they have a desire to go to school, but when they need it, nothing comes out because of panic attacks.

Parents should sound the alarm when these kinds of symptoms appear:

• asphyxiation attacks;
• interrupted breathing;
• too fast pulse and heart rate;
• strong sweating;
• chills and shudders;
• the child becomes paler, there is a breakdown, which can lead to loss of consciousness.

In addition to the above, a teenager may experience nausea, dizziness and intestinal colic.

Surprisingly, in the presence of this disease, the child may experience fear before the seizures of fear itself. In addition, the older the child, the stronger these manifestations can be.

Children can rush around the room at such moments, his behavior will be panicky, or he will be motionless for a long time. Such signs are difficult to date to whims and should be given due attention to them.

Asphyxia is one of the signs of a phobia

Reasons for fear

It is foolish to think that manifestations of fear before going to school can appear as a result of one stressful situation that occurred in an educational institution. In most cases, this is a protracted process, where the student is constantly exposed to negative factors that cannot be immediately eliminated:

• bullying from classmates that teachers ignore;
• cruelty towards a child;
• ridicule;
• endless threats from high school students;
• high employment and heavy loads (physical and mental);
• psychological reproaches from the side of teachers.

There are non-standard symptoms of didaskaleinophobia. It happens that a phobia occurs when a student experiences a panic, thinking that trouble can happen to his parents at the time of his absence. It may be that quarrels among relatives and troubles sink into the student’s head so much that at school he cannot get rid of them, trying to resolve their difficulties for relatives, therefore he does not want to attend an educational institution. Under any circumstances, the school is the main period of the student's socialization, so the fear of school must be overcome.

School workload may be one of the causes of frustration

How to overcome the fear of going to school

Most often, the student does not have the opportunity to fully understand exactly how didaskaleinophobia manifests itself, how to overcome it and eliminate it forever, what really prevents him from attending an educational institution. Based on this, the help of a professional is needed. In these cases, you should seek help from professionals in this field. First of all, these are child psychologists who can gradually determine all the reasons for such behavior in a child. A psychologist can explain how to get rid of pressure from classmates or discourage them. It will educate and change the student's views on the world so that he can look at the problem from a different angle and eliminate it on his own. If a child is very afraid for his parents, then a professional will be able to explain to him what to do when his relatives are not around.

In combination with the work of a psychologist, the student is prescribed certain antidepressants, therapeutic physical culture or other exercises that will distract the child from the problem. Physical education can help a child overcome self-doubt.

If the onslaught comes from the family, then it is important to have conversations with relatives. Close people are obliged to reconsider their attitude towards their own child and try to solve the problem without interfering with the child in it.

Most parents, when they hear from specialists that their child is afraid of school, breathe a sigh of relief - the problem is not so serious. Only this is the beginning of a complex psychological illness that can develop into something more. If this trouble is not addressed in time, then the child will not want to attend school at all, up to suicidal tendencies or running away from home. This will not happen immediately, but it should not be brought to this point. Any fear can be eradicated by finding it and eliminating it. Didaskaleinophobia is no exception if you seek the help of a highly qualified specialist in this field. He will be able to give the necessary advice:

Transfer your child to homeschooling. This is necessary and important, because the child must have the necessary knowledge.

Do not scold him for some weaknesses - the indignation of relatives will only aggravate the situation. Only with the help of patience and sympathy can one cope with psychological problems schoolboy.

The child must be supported, even if he received a bad grade. It is necessary to demonstrate that there is nothing terrible in this, everything can be corrected by better preparation passed material.

A little reminder to parents! In order for this phobia to be eliminated, parents should start with themselves, only relatives will help the student eliminate the fear. There should be a favorable atmosphere, trust and mutual understanding in the family circle.

Close people are obliged to show attention and patience, not to blame the child for all his failures. Having overcome the fears of constantly being guilty before the parents, the child will have confidence in support and protection. At school he will find mutual language with those children who will accept him as he is, and learn to resist all his enemies. He will be interested in going to school. It is important to convey to the child that he will not be perfect for everyone, which means that you should not always listen to everyone's opinion.

If you notice that the child's behavior is similar to the symptoms described above, then take the necessary measures, think about the microclimate in the family. An analysis should be made own behavior because quite often children copy the behavior of their loved ones. Based on this, you need to set an example for children based on their own behavior, and this will help them achieve unprecedented heights and overcome a lot of difficulties. It is necessary to communicate a lot with the child, learn about his problems and not let him withdraw into himself.

The school year has begun and there is so much more to come. However, some parents have already encountered certain difficulties. For example, what if a child is afraid to go to school? Under no circumstances should this problem be ignored.

as this in the future may cause mental disorders in the child. Let's look at the reasons that cause a child to be afraid of school.

There are children who joyfully jump up in the morning and cheerfully run to the lessons. But there are many more who go without much enthusiasm. Sometimes everyday fees turn into real torment for both the child and his parents. In the eyes of the baby, horror and tears at the mere thought of going to school. In such cases we are talking about school phobia. Today, teachers, parents, and psychologists talk about this phenomenon with concern. But in our time it is difficult to imagine a normal child isolated from school life. How to find a way out of the impasse?

Experts note that accurate statistics that determine the scale of the phenomenon do not yet exist. For example, according to French experts, 2-3 percent of all students suffer from school phobia in a serious form. Psychologists emphasize that these children are not at all capricious and not lazy. Often, on the contrary, they can learn very well. But the very need to enter the school building seems to turn on some brakes.

Sometimes a poorly conscious panic begins, the school world causes a sharp rejection in a child or teenager. Uncontrollable anxiety can be accompanied by insomnia, pallor, palpitations, headache, and sometimes even a fever. Most often, school phobia is associated with some deeply hidden childhood fears. But the easiest way for a child is to direct the alarm to a specific object - the school.

Who's guilty?

Psychologists believe that in children, the rejection of the school world often becomes a reflection of the fear of separation. The child is subconsciously afraid to part with his mother for a long time, only with her he feels completely safe. Sometimes a school phobia masks a very specific fear of communicating with peers if they treat the child aggressively or, for example, laugh at him. Worry about possible failures at school is another reason for constant fear. Many parents are concerned about the future success of their offspring almost from the cradle. And children feel this very well. And then school life from the very beginning for them becomes a source of increased anxiety. Often the origins of the phobia are not related to the educational institution at all. Fears can reflect any circumstances that threaten the emotional security of the child: difficult relationships with parents, a family that is too closed, fenced off from the rest of the world, a divorce between mom and dad, etc.

Age of risk

Experts believe that exacerbation of school fears usually happens at the most key, transitional moments the lives of children and adolescents. The first period - 6-7 years, the beginning of attending an educational institution, the second - 10-11 years, the end elementary school. And of course, the difficult teenage period of growing up - starting from the age of 14-15. The biggest risk is that school phobia, if not overcome, can give rise to the so-called social phobia: fear of communication, fear of public places. And in the end, already an adult can doom himself to social isolation.

After summer holidays

One of the causes of the phobia may be the return to school after long summer holidays or a change of school, as this is a rather serious test for a child. Here are the most simple rules to help avoid possible problems.

First of all, it is important to understand that adaptation should be gradual. If yesterday the child went to bed after midnight and woke up for dinner, then tomorrow it will be extremely difficult for him to get up at seven in the morning. The main requirement for an effective daily routine of a student is its stability. It is important that the child has breakfast, lunch and dinner on time, goes to bed and gets up at the same time, walks and does homework, and so on. Such a regime during the adaptation period is a certain signal for the body: “Everything is in order, the situation is standard, no surprises are expected, you can calm down.”

Parents should be prepared for the fact that in the first weeks and months of study, most likely, more of their control and help will be required for the child, even if he is no longer a first-grader. The participation of adults is necessary to comply with the routine of the day, in order to set the child up for homework, to deal with difficult moments in school, perhaps forgotten over the summer. It is necessary to praise more, support his efforts and efforts so that the student has enough time to sleep and walk in the fresh air. But if possible, it is better to postpone the beginning of visiting sections and circles for 2-4 weeks, allowing the child to first get involved in studies.

It is also important for parents to remember that not only first-graders at the beginning school year enter a new environment. Older students are also forced to go through adaptation again when, for one reason or another, they find themselves in a new class and school.

Looking for another school?

Transferring a child to another school can be one of the cures for a phobia. Although, as a rule, this is not a cardinal solution, but only a displacement of the problem. True, sometimes such a measure can be the first step towards overcoming a school phobia.

In connection with the move or other circumstances, the child comes to an already established team, being the only newcomer there. The situation is different when it is fully formed new class, for example, when enrolling in a gymnasium or when completing specialized classes.

Stress in a student occurs in both situations, but the first option is more difficult for most children. Getting into the team of children who have been studying together for several years, the student one way or another turns out to be the object of increased attention. The child is worried about how new classmates will accept him, whether he will be able to find friends. In addition, she worries about how relations with teachers will develop, whether it will be too difficult to study in a new class.

When helping a child during this period, it is important to understand that excessive intervention can do more harm than good. And the older the child, the less obvious should be the intervention of parents. At first, various difficulties may arise in a new place, but it is important to allow the child to solve them on his own, and not to act as a constant intermediary between him and classmates or teachers.

At first, you need to be especially attentive to the child, ask him about school, about the guys, about the past day, sincerely be interested in his success. If you can see that the student is constantly depressed and talks about problems in relations with classmates, it may be necessary to intervene in the situation of parents and the class teacher.

The way out is in unity

There are a great many reasons for school fears and their extreme manifestation - phobias. Therefore, in each case, the main thing is to understand what exactly the child is afraid of. And then look for ways to help him. It is important not to dismiss the problem, not to leave the student alone with his fears and suffering. In some cases, the professional help of psychologists is required: either individual work or in groups. But family therapy is considered the most effective. To help the child make school life joyful, joint efforts of both parents and teachers are needed.

It's hard to get used to studying after the holidays, and there is such a long third quarter ahead! At some point, you get sad. And in anxious children, problems that had fallen asleep reappear. And one of them is school fears, which are often intensified due to changes in the rhythm of life, workload, illnesses.

School for children is the main society. It has a lot of responsibilities and desires associated with it. Not surprisingly, most of the fears are concentrated here. One student is unsure of himself and is afraid to raise his hand, another finds it difficult to communicate with classmates. Often there is a fear verification work, and quite often schoolchildren, especially younger ones, are afraid of the teacher. Anxiety is different, and they depend on the nature of the child and his psychological defense.

Fear itself is not always unambiguously harmful. It saves us from unnecessary risk, helps us adapt to the situation. But sometimes anxiety becomes constant and greatly complicates life. Then it is necessary to pay serious attention to the emotional state of the child and think about the reasons for its deterioration.

Fear or excitement?

The word "afraid" for children does not always mean fear. So the child can name other sensations: “I don’t feel like it,” “I’m worried.” Help your son or daughter understand their feelings. “When it is really a school neurosis, its manifestations (depression or aggression) intensify during the period of study,” explains Tatyana Avdulova, associate professor of the department developmental psychology MSGU. - If the condition improves during the holidays, the child enthusiastically discusses different topics, but at the same time rejects everything connected with the school - this is an occasion to take a closer look at the situation.

Who is more afraid

The easiest way is to blame the problems on an overly picky teacher. It happens, of course, but more often the reasons are much deeper. It is important to pay attention to relationships at home. Anxiety, like a sprout that falls into prepared soil, develops when psychological protection is reduced. It is formed in the family.

Anxious "seedlings":

1. Constant parental dissatisfaction. Then the child is always waiting for trouble, self-doubt arises. Such children may be afraid of everything.

2. Excessive demands. Increased demands deprive the child of comfort: they do not understand him even in the family. There is a feeling of inferiority. Lyudmila Anshakova, psychologist: “Children are afraid of what they can be punished for. Nevertheless, there is a desire to break the ban, and it turns out vicious circle. The image of parents at the school door or another authority figure (teacher) is intimidating. Specific fears (of closed doors) appear.”

3. Overprotection. Children who are not accustomed to making decisions on their own are not easy in a peer group.

Practice

1. If you are afraid to go to school

This often happens after holidays or illness. Invite your son or daughter to agree with one of their classmates and go to school together.

2. If you are afraid to raise your hand and go to the board

Often parents persuade the child not to be afraid and thereby fix the fear. “It makes more sense to focus on a specific reason: were you afraid because you didn’t learn well or didn’t know the answer for sure?” - comments Lyudmila Anshakova.

3. Fear of answering wrong

Learn to manage an anxious situation: "You have the opportunity to prepare (learn a lesson, think about how to behave)." Practice speaking in public more often. It's easier to speak in third person. Play as if it is not the child himself who speaks, but the one whom he portrays.

4. When excited

Explain to the children that it is a positive feeling that spurs action. Excitement can be moderated by simple tricks - take a deep breath, think over the first phrase.

5. Before the test

Do not exaggerate its meaning ("You need to sleep, because tomorrow is a test!"). Translate the event into the category of ordinary (“Such checks in life happen all the time”).

6. If the student is afraid of the teacher

There are, of course, cases when it is more reasonable to change the teacher, but first it makes sense to work with the situation. In any case, explain to the child the meaning school requirements: this is not the arbitrariness of the teacher, but the desire to fulfill general rules. Play different situations: the child becomes a teacher, and one of the parents becomes a student.

7. When insecure

Parental control should not be step-by-step, but final. For example, we ask you to buy bread, but we do not say which one and in which store.

8. With difficulties in communication

Invite classmates to visit, come up with interesting events. Try to ensure that in a new company or in a new place the child is not alone, but with one of the familiar people.

9. For all situations

Hardening, a clear daily routine, walks before bedtime help to cope with anxiety and fear. What if the fears intensify with the onset of darkness? “By the end of the day, physical fatigue accumulates, and then anxiety fades into the background,” explains psychologist Lyudmila Anshakova. - Parents are nearby, the body is already a little relaxed, nothing happened. As a result, fears are clouded.”

10. Anatomize fears

We talk or draw. The image can be caged, glossed over, or completely torn. The main thing is to bring emotions to the surface, not to keep them in yourself.

Help me please, I'm 14 years old, I'm in the seventh grade, once (last year) I already stayed for the 2nd year. And it bothers me a lot. Everyone at school knows me, all the students, all the teachers. And everyone has a negative opinion about me. I'm afraid to go to school, I'm afraid of what people will think of me. I'm afraid of society. And this is what I'm walking on. My parents think that I just don't want to study. But I could study at home with a new teacher. But the parents say it's not possible. They don't have enough money to teach me at home... I don't know what to do... But I can't go to school. This is the worst thing in the world for me.
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Ekaterina, age: 01/14/2016

Responses:

Hi Katia! It's all about your fear, fear of condemnation, misunderstanding, ridicule. People have a lot of their own problems and can discuss not only you, do not dwell on it. It is better to be distracted and focus on your studies, on those subjects that are best obtained. Just repeat to yourself - I don't care about the opinions of others, I can handle it, I'm doing the right thing. Find a hobby for yourself, something that you like - it will work out and, as a result, general confidence will grow. Not everyone comes easily school items, the main thing is not to give up, but to look for exactly your own, this is the best let, live according to your heart. Start with small steps, set small goals, for example in the form of a positive mark, even in an easy subject. Then you can move on to more complex ones. And remember that your performance is not equal to the assessment of you as a person. Good luck!

Artyom, age: 01/31/2016

Hello Katya. What if you transfer to another school? It’s just that not everyone is registered for home schooling, mainly for health reasons. In any case, you need to study, first of all for yourself, your education, development. Is it possible to see a psychologist? Try not to skip classes, read more, watch videos on incomprehensible topics on the Internet. Good luck Kat. Take care of yourself!

Irina, age: 01/28/2016

Katyusha, maybe stop being afraid and tell the teachers that they would help you to catch up in your studies? I think they are also burdened by the fact that there are lagging students. You can also help excellent students. Or maybe they want to, but do not dare to offer themselves. Talk to a teacher you trust. Walking is not an option. It may not be superfluous to discuss this situation with your mother. Good luck, Katenka)

Clara, age: 34 / 01/21/2016

Convince your parents to transfer you to another school.

Kakaite girl type, age: 10 / 24.09.2017