The child is afraid to go to school. What to do? Why are you afraid to go to school? I'm afraid to go to school what to do

The fear of school and the reluctance to go there is increasingly common among children. Why is the child afraid of school?

Not all, but many parents go through the child's fear of school. It seems that the child is so waiting when he goes to first grade. This is how it prepares. And then - bam! - the desire disappears, and whims, tantrums, persuasions begin. This can happen on the first day or any other day in the middle of the school year.

Such a scary school

Finally, you and your child waited for September 1st. Festive mood, white blouses, jackets, bows, briefcases and bouquets are everywhere pleasing to the eye. First line, first lesson, first acquaintances. Everything is better than you could imagine.

But a couple of days pass, and an unexpected thunderstorm breaks into your quiet haven. The child begins to throw tantrums, does not want to go to school, and no persuasion works. It can be quiet crying with pleading eyes and requests never to take him to such a scary school again. Or it can result in a loud riot with the release of emotions and hatred.

You don't recognize the child. You don’t understand what could have happened. First, you try to find out the reasons from the first grader himself, but this does not always bear fruit. Then it's time to come to the teacher for explanations. Of course, there are times when something really happened at school. Then it's easier to solve. You can influence the child and calm him down. But what to do, for example, when there is no apparent reason?

Your child cannot point to specific reasons, and the teacher did not notice anything wrong. It is this situation that is usually very frustrating and tormenting. Where does fear come from and why is a child afraid to go to school? How to influence, help, correct, if you do not see what exactly needs to be corrected? The answer is given by Yuri Burlan's training "System-vector psychology".

Feeling secure is the foundation of life

It's no secret that the most important role in a child's life is played by parents. Their the internal state and behavior (especially of the mother) is completely reflected in the child as in a mirror... From birth to school, the child is one with his mother. If she is calm and confident in the future, does not suffer from fears, depression, bad conditions, then the child is completely sure that he is safe.

If the mother herself is in a bad state, even with a smile on her face, then it is useless to expect calmness and confidence from the child. Since mom is nervous, it means that he is in danger. Most of the children's fears come from here.

This stressful condition stops the child's mental development. No matter how you develop him in circles and sections, he will not be ready for school mentally. Taking him to a psychologist or doctor is also useless. They will not be able to give that which depends only on you. If there is no protection and tranquility at home, then the school is even worse - there are no parents there.

Conversely, if the child feels constant protection and calmness from the mother, he is sure that everything is fine. There is no tension, no stress - so there is no need to be afraid. Such a first grader is calm and balanced. He knows the world is not hostile. Nothing threatens him, because mom is calm, even if she is not always there.

A child needs a feeling of security and safety from the very first minute after birth until graduation - at least! This is the most important condition that practically guarantees that your child will be spared unjustified fears. The child is less likely to be afraid of school.

Ranking in the children's team

There is one more important condition for quick and painless adaptation to school - kindergarten. From the age of three, a person begins to perceive himself as part of a team. He needs to find his place in him - without the participation of his parents. The best age for this is three to six. It's kindergarten time. Socialization must necessarily occur at this age.

Learning to interact with other children, understanding their role in society, the child will feel confident. By going to the first grade, he will be fully adapted and ready mentally. Naturally, with such a child there will be fewer problems at school, or there will be none at all.

If your child has not attended kindergarten, then all socialization will begin in the first grade. This poses certain problems. The age has already passed, the separation from the mother is even more difficult, and most of the children have already passed it. Such children most often have a fear when they get into a large team, with which they have to be alone.

But even if your child was not in kindergarten, is strongly attached to his mother and sharply felt all the horror of the changes when going to first grade, he can and should be helped to go through the adaptation process as gently as possible. And understanding exactly the causes of the problems, it is much easier to do this.

The child is afraid of school: reasons

Fear in children does not appear from scratch... There are quite clear reasons for this, which arise depending on the properties of the child, given by nature. The training "System-vector psychology" by Yuri Burlan helps to understand what properties are inherent in your child and what exactly he may be afraid of.

Let's highlight the main groups of reasons why a child may lose the desire to go to school, what he may be afraid of:

1. Fear to stand out in something, to draw attention to oneself, to be not like everyone else and because of this become an outcast.

2. Fear of doing something wrong, not having time to finish; that he will not be praised, scolded, will laugh.

3. Fear that everyone around is screaming and running, there is no saving silence, to which he is accustomed at home.

Each group can include one fear or several at once. There are also children for whom all of the above is not a problem. If something is wrong with your child, it's time to figure out what exactly.

It is also necessary to take into account that junior schoolchildren do not yet have sufficient cultural restrictions, they are often cruel towards a classmate who stands out in some way. It may be an unusual name, a flaw in appearance. Ridicule and ignorance will inevitably lead to reluctance to go to school.

Fear of being different

Not a single small child wants to stand out, to be different, children want to be like everyone else so as not to become an outcast... But more often this fear is inherent in children with a visual vector. These babies are initially born with fear as a basic emotion. With proper development, fear for oneself develops into its opposite - love for others and sensuality. In the meantime, fear is natural; it is important to know how to react to it.

Children with a visual vector, not feeling protected from their mother and not having the skill of socialization, become the first objects of bullying. The weaker physically, often cry, react emotionally to every little thing, they feel sorry for everyone and always.

They are scared to go to school. At the same time, they are driven by the desire to communicate, to learn something new, to be in a team. They cannot imagine themselves without emotions and emotional connections. Therefore, the contradiction - and scary, and I want to - it's about them.

Such a first grader needs to be supported in an effort to get a portion of communication, learn something new, see what he has not yet seen. You just need to encourage him to share something tasty with new friends and help in all those who need help. He gets extraordinary pleasure from this process. It is laid down by nature, so it will be very useful. In addition, for the children's flock, a child who is able to share, help disinterestedly, will be the most desirable for communication. Others will be attracted to him, he will never be an outcast, and this applies to all children.

Fear of being ridiculed

It only happens in children with the so-called anal vector. By nature, these are the most obedient children, attached to their mother, who is their ideal. They are slow, very solid and do not like to switch from one thing to another without completing the first. For them, praise is the most important thing. They tend to be offended and do not tolerate ridicule. Again, with proper development, these qualities turn into the most positive ones.

Such a child should not be rushed. Never in anything. It is necessary to give him time to finish everything to the end. Then be sure to praise, but in moderation. It is also impossible to overestimate. He will immediately sense the catch. In no case should you laugh at him and make fun of him if something does not work out. Otherwise, the insult can remain in the memory for life. And these children have the best memory.

When going to school, a child with an anal vector needs to be encouraged for a special craving for knowledge, and it will definitely be if he develops without delay; praise for good grades, for the cleanliness and accuracy of the notebook. He especially needs support. You can tell him that it would be useful to explain something incomprehensible to your classmates, to help them understand something.

It would be very good to talk to the teacher so that he would try to pull less and hurry such a student. Well, the constant support of parents is the most important thing for a leisurely child.

If loud noises at recess are terrifying

In every team there is always a child (or even more than one) who is used to standing on the sidelines, does not participate in running, and when screaming, closes his ears with his hands. This is the owner of the sound vector. He is often considered out of this world. But he is more than normal. It is he who may be afraid of school because of the noisy environment in the classroom.

A child with a sound vector is an introvert. He cannot stand big companies and loud sounds. It's hard for him to get used to school and join the team. Potentially, such a child is the most brilliant. He always tries to comprehend the meaning, hears sounds very subtly, often has an absolute ear for music, is inclined towards science. He can become an outstanding scientist or musician.

But again, this is potential. To do this, he needs to be in silence. At least at home.

A child with a sound vector needs to create absolute silence at home. You cannot shout at him or even raise your voice. It is a quiet speech and a whisper that he is able to hear best. In no case should you humiliate him with meanings, call him stupid or stupid, say that nothing will come of him. From this, the child loses the ability to hear, think, perceive. He withdraws into himself and disconnects from the world.

Psychology that produces results

Nowadays, children are most often born with several vectors. Accordingly, the properties are combined in them are different. It is from this that one must proceed when preparing a child for school.

“… I now understand that she did not have a sense of security and safety, that all my visual fears directly affect her, and from the very birth. But at that time I found the only reason for this behavior. School! Grade 1, stress, will pass. On that and calmed down. At this time, my brother's wife began to listen to lectures on SVP and periodically hint that it would be nice for me to at least read, but it would be better to listen for my own sake, and for the sake of my family, etc.
... I tried to focus on the child, not really understanding how to do it. To begin with, I "introduced" one more obligatory daily ritual. Before going to bed, I came to her room, lay down next to her, and we talked to her on all topics of interest to her. She really liked it, she had been waiting for this all evening. She shared with me some moments from her school life, I told her about my ... "
Oksana M., lawyer, Penza

“… I have already felt rapid and incredible changes in my son. About my results, and they are also there, I will write separately. I took the training - and I saw the result in it! Only here, at the training, I realized how connected we are. This is amazing! He used to catch me what Yuri gave me!
He suddenly calmed down. I stopped asking if everything is fine with me. Make obsessive movements (rituals), cry for no reason. But the most important thing is that he began to perceive educational information by ear again! ..
... And suddenly he began to prepare for the lessons ...
And then he began to wear fives one after another. Seeing his condition, I decided not to give him the pills that we periodically drank during this time ...
... Today, when I am writing this review, there are three days left until the end of the academic six months, and my son is finishing it with an excellent student! .. "
Yuliana G., teacher at a music school, Ulyanovsk

Anxieties are different, and they depend on the nature of the child and his psychological defense

It's hard to get used to studying after the holidays, and there is such a long third quarter ahead! Inevitably you will become sad. And anxious children again have problems that have fallen asleep. And one of them is school fears, which are often intensified due to a change in the rhythm of life, stress, illness.

School for children is the main society. A lot of responsibilities and desires are associated with it. Unsurprisingly, this is where most fears are concentrated. One student is unsure of himself and is afraid to raise his hand, it is difficult for another to communicate with classmates. Often there is a fear of test work, and quite often schoolchildren, especially younger ones, are afraid of the teacher. Anxiety is different, and they depend on the nature of the child and his psychological defense.

Fear itself is not always unambiguously harmful. It relieves us of unnecessary risk, helps us to adapt to the situation. But sometimes anxiety becomes constant and makes life very difficult. Then you need to pay serious attention to the emotional state of the child and think about the reasons for its deterioration.

Fear or Excitement?

The word "afraid" for children does not always mean fear. This is how the child can call other sensations: “I don’t feel like it,” “I am worried.” Help your son or daughter understand how she is feeling. “When it is really a school neurosis, its manifestations (depression or aggression) intensify during the period of study,” explains Tatiana Avdulova, associate professor at the Department of Developmental Psychology at Moscow State Pedagogical University. "If the state improves during the holidays, the child enthusiastically discusses various topics, but at the same time rejects everything related to school, this is a reason to take a closer look at the situation."

Who is more often afraid

The easiest way is to blame problems on an overly picky teacher. This happens, of course, but more often the reasons are much deeper. It's important to pay attention to relationships at home. Anxiety, like a sprout that enters the prepared soil, develops when the psychological defense is reduced. It is formed in the family.

Disturbing "seedlings":

1. Constant parental dissatisfaction. Then the child is always waiting for trouble, self-doubt arises. Such children may be afraid of everything.

2. Excessive requirements. Increased exactingness deprives the child of comfort: he is not understood even in the family. A feeling of inferiority appears. Lyudmila Anshakova, psychologist: “Children are afraid of what they might be punished for. Nevertheless, there is a desire to violate the prohibition, and a vicious circle turns out. The image of a parent at the school door or another authority figure (teacher) is intimidating. Specific fears (of closed doors) appear. "

3. Hyper-care. Children who are not used to making decisions on their own find it difficult to be in a peer group.

Practice

1. If you are afraid to go to school

This often happens after vacations or illness. Invite your son or daughter to agree with a classmate and go to school together.

2. If you are afraid to raise your hand and go to the board

Often, parents persuade the child not to be afraid and thereby fix the fear. “It makes more sense to focus on a specific reason: were you afraid because you learned poorly or didn't know the exact answer?” - comments Lyudmila Anshakova.

3. Fear of answering incorrectly

Teach anxiety management: "You have the opportunity to prepare (learn a lesson, think about how to behave)." Practice public speaking often. It's easier to speak from the third person. Play as if it is not the child himself who speaks, but the one he portrays.

4. When worried

Explain to the children that this is a positive feeling that spurs action. Excitement can be tempered by simple techniques - take a deep breath, think over the first phrase.

5. Before the test

Do not exaggerate its significance ("You need to sleep, because tomorrow is a test!"). Transfer the event to the rank of privates ("Such checks happen all the time in life").

6. If the student is afraid of the teacher

There are, of course, cases when it is wiser to change the teacher, but first it makes sense to work with the situation. In any case, explain to the child the meaning of the school requirements: this is not the teacher’s arbitrariness, but the desire to follow the general rules. Play different situations: a child becomes a teacher, and one of the parents becomes a student.

7. In case of uncertainty

Parental control should not be step-by-step, but final. Let's say we ask you to buy bread, but we don't say which one and in which store.

8. With difficulties in communication

Invite classmates to visit, come up with interesting events. Try so that in a new company or in a new place the child is not alone, but with someone from familiar people.

9. For all situations

Tempering, a clear daily routine, and walking before bed help to cope with anxiety and fear. What if fears intensify with the onset of darkness? “By the end of the day, physical fatigue builds up, and then anxiety fades into the background,” explains psychologist Lyudmila Anshakova. - Parents are nearby, the body is already a little relaxed, nothing happened. As a result, fears are clouded. "

10. Anatomizing fears

We speak or draw. The image can be put in a cage, covered up or even torn. The main thing is to bring emotions to the surface, not to keep them in yourself.

Who is more afraid of school, parents or children? How to deal with childhood fears and what to do to make the child feel more confident and calm? Here are some psychological tricks and books to help children overcome dydascaleinophobia.

Yes, that's the real name for a real phobia! This word is called the fear of children in front of school. Of course, a phobia in the full sense of the word, especially such an exotic one, is quite rare. But the unpleasant feeling at the thought that "soon to school" is familiar to many - both children and their parents. While some schoolchildren are looking forward to the "Day of Knowledge" to see their friends and immerse themselves in a busy school life, others are sad and afraid.

Sometimes the reason for fear is a transition to a new status (first grader or high school student) or to a new educational institution. Memories of unpleasant school stories, insults, ridicule, a biased teacher and, moreover, bullying can also poison the first days of September. It is difficult to go to school for those who have been ill a lot in the past year and feel insecure. Or, on the contrary, the parents tortured the child with additional activities in the summer so that no thirst for knowledge was left by September. And some children over the summer, alas, did not have time to forget the feeling of constant stress, unbearable stress and fatigue that they have associated with studying at school.

What can you do to make your child less worried about school?

Here's what psychologists advise:

1. It is better to introduce first graders to the first teacher and the school building in advance, especially if they have not attended kindergarten. Try to tell them in detail why school is needed, how their day will go, what will change and what will remain the same, who will accompany them to school and meet after school, when they can walk, play and communicate with their parents.
2. If your child is afraid of meeting classmates or teachers, an effort should be made to find out who is upsetting him or her. Talk to your classmates' parents, homeroom teacher and school counselor, invite your child's friends over to visit, or go to the movies with them to watch them interact. Let the child feel your concern and your protection: if he feels bad, become his advocate in a difficult situation, show him that he can always rely on you.
3. For those children who find it hard to study, you can come up with pleasant activities in advance, where they will enjoy the process and where they will feel successful. It can be dancing, sports or creative circles.
4. It is important for parents not to worry themselves, so as not to pass on their anxiety to their children. The calm attitude of mom and dad to study and especially to the child's success will show him that parents will always be on his side, explain, protect, and help. Let your child know that school is only part of life and that the world will not collapse from bad grades or criticism for bad behavior.
5. Finally, if you feel that the child is close to panic and no calming measures are working on him, it makes sense to consult a psychologist. It is not always easy for parents to recognize the deeper causes of childhood fear that are understood by a professional. It may well be that one or several consultations will make the life of the whole family safer and more joyful.
6. There is another obvious way to reduce anxiety. Help your child believe that he is ready for school life, that his intellectual resources will be enough to cope with his studies. To do this, practice verbal counting in a playful way, try to read aloud a couple of paragraphs of a children's book at speed, play words more often, learn a few poems, tongue twisters and riddles that the child likes.

What to read?

To always have interesting and varied tasks at your fingertips, we have prepared a selection of Clever books from the collection "Ready for school!" ... It features reading simulators and lots of fun assignments with stickers for all ages. There is an excellent student's quiz for those who go to first or second grade, and a collection of olympiad problems in mathematics. Books are perfect for future first graders and primary school students.

Author's course of preparation for reading by Irina Maltseva (4-6 years old). There is the experience of a well-known teacher, a game form of presentation, detailed step-by-step instructions for parents. Children will not only quickly learn to read, but also broaden their understanding of the world.

- a new training book of the "Super Experts" series. You can take a small book with you on the road so as not to get bored. Children are invited to color complex objects according to the pattern, solve the secret code and find out the names of animals. So in the game you can master the entire program of the senior group of the kindergarten and feel like a real superhero, ready to fight the unknown difficulties of the first school year.

When the children are 6-7 years old, it’s time to go to first grade. But what if your child is afraid of school? The fear of being left without the support of mom and dad in an unfamiliar place and with strangers is quite understandable. If persuasion does not work, parents begin to feel anxious. There is no need to despair - the advice of a psychologist will come to the rescue.

Why does school phobia occur?

There are several reasons why a child is afraid to go to school. New life can scare him; the baby is used to being close to family. At the same time, shy children or those who have not attended kindergarten may have difficulty communicating. This also leads to the development of a phobia.

Classmates and teachers are strangers with whom you need to make friends. But what if the first grader fails to find a common language with one of them? It scares and makes even adults who take a new job nervous. If this is the main reason that the child is afraid to go to school, the advice of a psychologist will help solve this situation.

A child may have a bad impression of the educational institution as a result of rash statements by parents about the negative learning experience and the rigor of disciplines. Stories like these can give him the impression that school life is incredibly difficult, which means it's best to try to avoid it. This line of behavior can even lead to absenteeism and runaways from home.

The reason that the child is afraid to go to school may be the increased physical and psycho-emotional stress. Yesterday your son or daughter played with friends and had fun; today they must learn lessons and get good grades. They have special requirements that must be met. Even a first grader with a high level of intelligence can become anxious and lose confidence.

The child is afraid to go to school: what to do?

Some helpful tips can help you understand the causes of your baby's phobia. It is not recommended to force and scold the child, because such upbringing will aggravate the situation. To get your daughter or son to go to school with a smile on their face, start preparing them for adulthood in advance. May the first school year bring them joy and fun. Talk about the benefits of studying, making new friends, and learning interesting things.

So, if a child is afraid to go to school, what should the parents do? Consider the recommendations of psychologists:

If your son or daughter has been afraid to go to class for the second or third year, it is worth talking to the teachers. Perhaps they are offended by their peers or high school students, the teacher is biased. Any deviations from the norm you notice should not be ignored. If you could not cope with the situation on your own, contact a psychologist.

Where can I sign up for a consultation with a psychologist?

Is your child afraid of school? What to do in this situation and where to go? The most correct thing to do is to visit the Insight psychological center. He will develop a separate course of classes, counseling or psychological trainings for your baby, which will help you get rid of this phobia forever. Call us!

The current programs for educational institutions are continuously updated and modified. The material is not easy and schoolchildren may simply not perceive it. Quite often, it happens that a child listens to well-read information, but is unable to understand it, therefore, it is necessary to disassemble the material passed at school at home. If in the elementary grades it is still possible to understand what is at stake, then in the senior grades it is no longer easy. Thus, the child begins to be afraid of the educational institution, since the homework is not completed, the teachers give two marks, and the parents scold them. The psyche of a teenager cannot stand such stress and there is a fear of school, which must be got rid of urgently.

Fear of the school can arise from the child's inability to master the educational material

What is Fear of School

The fear of going to school is called didascaleinophobia, it is characteristic only of schoolchildren and appears only at the time of class. In essence, the concept of dydascaleinophobia literally stands for "fear of school." Formally, such a phobia cannot immediately manifest itself in full. Parents often perceive reluctance to go to school as laziness, a desire to take a walk or do something other than the educational process. But it is at these moments that one does not need to turn away from the problem, it is necessary to take it with all responsibility and find the real reason for absenteeism. This is especially pronounced in primary school, because the child has not yet fully adapted to learning and requirements, and heavy loads without family support can lead to the appearance of a phobia

The mistake of parents is that they consider a phobia to be a manifestation in all spheres of a child's life at once, and fear appears precisely in a specific case. If you eliminate the irritant, then the fear goes away by itself. It is impossible to neglect such manifestations in a teenager. The longer time and attention is not paid to the problem, the more strongly it grows into consciousness. Later, it can develop into the strongest anger, which is associated with anxiety and depression.

Signs and symptoms of a phobia

The most complete and accurate description of the fear of school was described by Khersov. He believed that problems began with questionable complaints about an educational institution or with her forced attendance. Later, this develops into a complete refusal to go to school, without taking into account the persuasion of the parents. The closer the time is to go to school, the more the behavior and mood of the child changes. Many children say that they have a desire to go to school, but at the right moment they fail due to panic attacks.

Parents should raise the alarm when these types of symptoms appear:

• asphyxia seizures;
• interrupted breathing;
• too fast pulse and heart rate;
• heavy sweating;
• chills and shuddering;
• the child becomes paler, there is a breakdown, which can lead to loss of consciousness.

In addition to the above, a teenager may experience nausea, dizziness and intestinal colic.

It is surprising that in the presence of this disease, the appearance of a fear of seizures of the child's fear may arise. In addition, the older the child, the stronger such manifestations can be.

Children can rush around the room at such moments, his behavior will be panicky, or he is motionless for a long time. Such signs are difficult to coincide with whims and should be given due attention to them.

Asphyxia is one of the signs of a phobia

Reasons for the manifestation of fear

It is foolish to think that manifestations of fear of going to school can appear as a result of one stressful situation that occurred in the educational institution. In most cases, this is a protracted process, where the student is constantly exposed to negative factors that cannot be immediately eliminated:

• bullying from classmates that educators ignore;
• cruelty towards the child;
• ridicule;
• endless threats from high school students;
• high employment and heavy loads (physical and mental);
• psychological reproaches from the side of teachers.

There are unusual symptoms of dydascaleinophobia. It so happens that a phobia occurs when a student experiences panic, thinking that trouble may happen to the parents, at the moment of his absence. It may be that quarrels among relatives and troubles so sink into the mind of a student that at school he cannot get rid of them, trying to solve their difficulties for his relatives, therefore he does not want to attend an educational institution. Under any circumstances, school is the main period of socialization of a student, therefore, the fear of school must be overcome.

Being busy at school can be one of the causes of the disorder.

How to overcome your fear of going to school

Most often, a student does not have the opportunity to fully understand exactly how dydascaleinophobia manifests itself, how to overcome it and eliminate it forever, what really prevents him from attending an educational institution. Based on this, the help of a professional is needed. In these cases, you should seek help from professionals in this area. First of all, it is child psychologists who can gradually determine all the reasons for this behavior in a child. The psychologist can explain how to relieve or discourage peer pressure. Will teach and change the student's views on the world so that he can look at the problem from a different perspective and fix it on his own. If a child is very afraid for his parents, then a professional will be able to explain to him what to do when relatives are not around.

In combination with the work of a psychologist, the student is prescribed certain antidepressants, physical therapy, or other exercises that will distract the child from the problem. Physical education can help a child overcome self-doubt.

If the onslaught comes from a family, it is important to have conversations with relatives. Close people are obliged to reconsider their attitude towards their own child and try to solve the problem without interfering with the child in it.

Most parents, when they hear from specialists that their child is afraid of school, breathe a sigh of relief - the problem is not so serious. Only this is the beginning of a complex psychological illness that can develop into something more. If you do not address this problem in time, the child will not want to go to school at all, even to the point of suicidal tendencies or running away from home. This will not happen immediately, but it is not worth leading to this. Any fear can be eradicated by finding it and eliminating it. Didascaleinophobia is no exception if you seek the help of a highly qualified specialist in this field. It is he who will be able to give the necessary advice:

Transfer the child to study at home. This is necessary and important, since the child must have the necessary knowledge.

Do not scold him for some weaknesses - the indignation of relatives will only aggravate the situation. Only with the help of patience and compassion can you cope with the psychological problems of a student.

The child needs to be supported even if he / she gets a bad grade. It is necessary to demonstrate that there is nothing terrible in this, everything can be corrected by better preparation of the material covered.

A small reminder to parents! In order for this phobia to be eliminated, parents should start with themselves, only relatives will help the student to eliminate the fear. There should be a favorable atmosphere, trust and mutual understanding in the family circle.

Close people are obliged to show attention and patience, not to blame the child for all his failures. Having overcome the fears of constantly being guilty before the parents, the child will have confidence in support and protection. At school, he will find a common language with those children who will accept him for who he is, and will learn to resist all his enemies. It will be interesting for him to go to school. It is important to convey to the child that he will not be ideal for everyone, which means that you should not always listen to everyone's opinion.

If you noticed that the child's behavior is similar to the symptoms described above, then take the necessary measures, think about the microclimate in the family. You should conduct an analysis of your own behavior, since quite often children copy the behavior of their loved ones. Based on this, you need to set an example for children based on their own behavior, and this will help them achieve unprecedented heights and overcome a lot of difficulties. It is necessary to communicate a lot with the child, learn about his problems and not let him withdraw into himself.