Psychological methods of pressure on a person. How to effectively resist psychological pressure

Do you feel that psychological pressure is often put on you? If you are a calm and confident person, then you will probably want to answer: "No." But in vain!

Methods of influence can be completely different, and often the “victim” does not even understand that she has just been pressured. But it has a huge impact on your life! If you do not want to fall into this trap anymore, read our article and use the knowledge for psychological self-defense.

Types of psychological pressure

Psychological pressure is the influence on other people, carried out in order to change their psychological attitudes, opinions, judgments and decisions. It may seem that only strong and result-oriented people resort to it, but this is not so. A confident person will act directly and openly, and not look for workarounds, causing inconvenience to others. There are many types of psychological pressure that you probably have to deal with in life:

1. Coercion is a direct, undisguised influence on another person. It is resorted to only when there is some kind of force, otherwise no one will succumb. Examples of such power can be physical qualities, power, money, information. A person who is being coerced into something is aware of the process taking place - as opposed to being manipulated. You can try to protect yourself from him by hinting to the "presser" that he is acting aggressively - some people do not like to admit this. However, if this does not bother a person, then it is very difficult to resist this type of pressure.
2. Humiliation. Another type of psychological pressure, expressed in the desire of the aggressor to morally "crush the victim." In this situation, you can hear a lot of unpleasant things about yourself: you are stupid, scary, clumsy, mediocre, disorganized, etc. … Being in a state of psychological prostration, you lose control over the situation, and at this moment it is very convenient to put pressure on you: “At least you can do this?”. The idea is that if you were sober, you would never agree, but this is where personal defense mechanisms and the desire to prove your own worth come into play. By the way, this technique works solely due to self-doubt.
3. Leaving aside. This kind of psychological pressure stands apart from all others, since its essence lies in trying to starve you out. Simply put, when they try to put pressure on you, and you want to clarify this, the person begins to slip into extraneous topics or even goes into “deep defense”: “Well, what are you, huh?”. Or asks why you keep talking nasty things about him. In this case, it is necessary to track the moment of leaving each time and return to the starting point: “No, we will deal with me later, now we are talking about you.” If you are persistent, then there is a chance that the aggressor will lag behind you with his pressure.
4. Suggestion is a kind psychological impact on a person, after which he begins to uncritically “swallow” information imposed on him from the outside. The person using this method must be an authority for his victim, otherwise the trick will not work. An extreme version of suggestion is hypnosis, but it can also be used in the waking state. For this, as a rule, games with voice, intonation and other semi-conscious moments are used. Paradoxically, there are people who are not suggestible at all, and you are lucky if you are one of them.
5. Belief. The most rational kind of psychological pressure. It appeals to reason and human logic. That is why only people with normal level intelligence and development of thinking - the rest simply will not understand what they are being told here. Speech, which includes beliefs, is usually as logical, consistent and conclusive as possible - as soon as the consciousness of the victim catches the slightest inconsistencies, the whole structure immediately collapses.

How to resist psychological pressure

Oddly enough, but to resist psychological pressure much easier than providing it. The first step is to recognize that you are being manipulated. You can see in the partner's behavior signs of the methods of influence described above. Persistently drawing your attention to some aspects of the problem and ignoring others should also alert you - as well as generous promises that cause reasonable doubt. In your state, during manipulation, inexplicable sympathy for a partner, sharp fluctuations in feelings, feelings of lack of time, guilt, obligation may appear - all these things should be a signal that you are being manipulated.

Next, you should inform the interlocutor that he is “brought to clean water". You may question the appropriateness of the actions and decisions that he requires of you. Then offer your own interaction option, which, first of all, will suit you.

Naturally, the manipulator will resist. In this case, it is useful to ask questions aimed at clarifying the situation: what does he mean when he talks about the problem, what objective conditions and restrictions are in place, what should be done to improve the situation, etc. ... Specify why the manipulator chose you and right now - all this allows you to track what the aggressor prefers to “pressure”.

Well, the most useful thing is the banal "think". As already mentioned above, the main task of the manipulator is to activate feelings, emotions, irrational attitudes, because they contribute to the belief in the words of the aggressor. However, as soon as you get out of the state of pliability and soberly analyze the situation, everything changes dramatically. The urgency in resolving the issue disappears, and you no longer feel any particular guilt for yourself. Therefore, as soon as it seems to you that you are being manipulated, start thinking hard. And always take time to reflect - it is this that helps you to step outside the situation and look at it objectively.

IN modern world It is very important to be able to deal with psychological pressure. We have practically abandoned weapons and the use of physical strength, respectively, only such methods of influence remained for the enemies. And in order to live happily, you need to be able to recognize them and protect yourself and your loved ones from such gross psychological interference.

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Psychological pressure is such a way of influencing a person in which it is possible to influence not only his actions and mode of action, but often even his way of thinking and opinion.

What is psychological pressure?

Psychological pressure is used various reasons. Often this is done because of a lack of real power in the person exerting pressure, or because of self-doubt. A person who possesses does not put pressure on others, but solves problems, trying to use direct and honest methods.

Psychological pressure not only "breaks" the victim and gives her a lot of anxiety and loss of an inner sense of security. This method of influence can also turn against the one who uses it - in the Criminal Code Russian Federation there is an article (Article 40 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation) for those who exert insurmountable psychological pressure. The article provides for punishment for psychological pressure on a person, and at the same time is an acquittal for the victim of such influence - the justice of the Russian Federation considers pressure so powerful that it can drive a person to a crime against his will.

Thus, pressure in psychology is an extremely undesirable mode of action. It may seem that knowing how to put pressure on a person psychologically is great and effective, and it helps a lot in life to achieve your own goals. Many psychologists, especially those who specialize in business training, also think so. However, pressure remains an unhealthy strategy that can only bring temporary results, and in the long run only brings injury and suffering to those around you.

Knowing how to suppress a person psychologically is necessary first of all in order to be able to resist this pressure from others. Many people are familiar with this condition, in which, after being manipulated, they are forced to do something that is contrary to their inner beliefs. At the same time, they experience a lot of mixed negative emotions- from shame and anger to a literal split of the personality into two parts.

Types of psychological pressure

There are several types of psychological pressure, each of which requires special attention to its management and evasion strategy. Here are the most common types of pressure, and then we'll talk about how to resist them.

The first of them, the most unpretentious and undisguised, is coercion. Coercion can, which has an imaginary or real superiority over its victim. It could be a boss threatening to fire you, or a gangster from a doorway threatening with a knife. Both of these are nothing but coercion.

Humiliation (or humiliation) is the second type of psychological pressure. For him, the manipulator gets personal, offends (probably even publicly), emphasizes the flaws that are painful for the victim: appearance, illness, marital status, etc. The lowest and most offensive words are selected that are designed to “crush” the victim of manipulation. How does it work for a manipulator, what does a humiliated person want to do for a person who has told him so much? It's very simple: after the sounded nasty things, the manipulator immediately offers a way by which the humiliated victim can rise in the eyes of society - to fulfill the proposed assignment.

The next method of pressure is avoidance. In this case, implicit manipulation is performed, and when the victim tries to clarify the situation, the manipulator waves it off indignantly. Thus, the victim of manipulation creates " the cognitive dissonance» - unpleasant feeling that she is doing something wrong. In an effort to get rid of this feeling, a person fulfills any requests of the manipulator.

Suggestion and persuasion are options for applying psychological pressure. At the same time, the manipulator must have some kind of influence on the victim: either have absolute authority in her eyes, or be a well-known person to her. Suggestion is more focused on emotions. The manipulator may use phrases like "Listen to me, I know for sure ...", or "Don't you trust my opinion ...", or "I only wish you well, therefore ...".

In this case, the psychological suppression of a person occurs, as it were, out of good intentions, as a result of which the victim adopts the imposed opinion and begins to consider it his own. Persuasion is characterized by rationalization, i.e., they try to inspire a person with something, using the arguments of logic, sometimes quite perverted. The number of arguments, both real and imaginary, reaches such a quantity that the victim's brain simply gets tired of perceiving the information critically and automatically agrees.

Gratitude required. This is a variant of long-term psychological pressure. The manipulator first renders the victim a service: one that was not asked for and that did not really cost him anything. He can regularly provide such imaginary "help" to the victim, rubbing himself into confidence. At the moment when the manipulator has something, the request “return the favor” comes into play. The request can become quite intrusive and turn into threats if the victim does not agree to the terms right away.

How to resist psychological pressure?

It should be understood that manipulators are not guided by a special list where it is written how to put pressure on a person psychologically. This means that the manipulator does not choose only one method of pressure - in life there may be the most sophisticated combinations of strategies that change in the course of exposure to the victim. These methods are chosen depending on the intuition and the degree of depravity of the manipulator, i.e., practically nothing limits his imagination.

In this regard, coping strategies must also be flexible. To know how to resist psychological pressure, you need to realize that it is being applied to you. Sometimes it is very difficult to do this: as already mentioned, there are a lot of ways to exert psychological pressure on a person and they can form the most unexpected combinations. Therefore, it is necessary to regularly ask yourself the question: am I doing this because I want to, or does someone else want it? If, when answering a question, you feel some fragmentation, splitting, if your motivation is dictated from the outside by a specific person, this is a sign that you are under pressure.

Psychological pressure can be defeated by resorting to a straightforward rebuff. However, this does not work for all manipulators, and not every victim can maintain a “fighting spirit”. A direct response implies that the victim, having realized his position, informs the manipulator that his demands are unrealistic or undesirable. For some manipulators, directness can be confusing and they admit defeat, but in many cases, the victim can be immediately entangled in a network of less obvious manipulations, accept the guilt imposed on her, and wallow in other people's ambitions even deeper.

Work on yourself and your self-esteem. It is no secret that it is easier to exert psychological pressure on a person if he is not confident in himself and his own abilities. Self-go out for more high level life, especially for a person who is already under pressure, is almost impossible, therefore, in such situations, the intervention of a specialist is necessary.

Psychologist Nikita Valerievich Baturin conducts trainings and workshops dedicated to personal growth, and also helps people who have fallen under the influence of manipulators to realize their own goals and learn how to avoid pressure from outside. The help of a specialist is especially required if the toxic environment covers the victim's immediate circle of friends - family or loved ones. A psychologist will teach you how to resist the psychological pressure of a husband or parents without destroying family ties.

Psychological pressure: protection against manipulation in several tricks

Psychological pressure is harder to recognize than overcome. If you know exactly who is exerting pressure on you and in what matters, a few simple defense techniques will help you. They may seem insignificant, but if you are aware of what and why you are using them, then they will work. Receptions against psychological pressure are as follows:

• Create barriers. If you feel that an unpleasant conversation is starting, in which they will try to “crush” you, put various objects between you and the interlocutor. An ashtray, a chair, a cup, a mobile phone - any, even an insignificant, object on the way from the manipulator to you can become your mental "protection" and an obstacle to aggressive influence.
• Take closed postures. Cross your legs, cross your arms, put your finger on your lips or eyebrows, prop your face with your palm. All these natural barriers that you create with your own body in the way of aggressive influence will help you think more critically in relation to what the interlocutor imputes to you. In addition, these poses give confidence.
• Create mental barriers. Outline with your imagination a circle around you, stand up a dome or a wall, you can mentally place yourself in a spacesuit. Imagine that behind an imaginary barrier is your security zone, where no one can penetrate, no matter how hard they try.
• Distract the attention of the manipulator. Move objects in front of him, perform various manipulations, cough, yawn, stretch: show any physical activity that will prevent the opponent from concentrating on what he is saying. The main thing is not to overdo it, because everything should look natural.
• Present the interlocutor in a funny way. For example, mentally put a jester's hat on your important boss or make him a screaming penguin. As long as you are focused on creating a funny image, you will not have time to be afraid, which means you will have more opportunities to think about the incoming information and confront it.

These techniques will help you gain confidence and find a mental resource in order to resist the manipulator. can be applied constantly, but they are not enough to constructively discuss a controversial subject and unconditionally regain an advantage in a situation.

How to get out of pressure?

Here are some specific steps that will allow you to conflict situation win over the advantage:

1. Ask questions. The first question to ask when applying pressure is "Can I refuse this request?" Even if the opponent answers "Yes, but ...", you can already operate on this answer to explain your refusal. If the answer is no, a number of other questions should be asked. It is especially important during such an "interview" to monitor the reaction of the manipulator - his facial expressions or gestures. Often only a close look is enough to break the opponent's confidence. Clarifying questions that are not a direct confrontation, but help to identify “holes” in manipulation, can help in a situation of pressure. “Does it look like I don’t want to take responsibility?”, “Does it show that I’m afraid?”, “What should I be afraid of?”, “Do you think that I have no right to refuse?”, “Why are you so sure of what you're saying?" Such questions can confuse the manipulator and buy time for the next step.
2. Determine your opponent's strategy. How are they trying to break you? Maybe the manipulator refers to his experience or age? Take advantage of your experience and age. Referring to authorities? Question them or say that this figure is not authoritative in your specific dispute. Trying to put pressure on others? If they are present during the conversation in person, you can ask each of them why they support your opponent and not you. If the manipulator is trying to win the advantage with a pace or a quick attack, take a break - say that you need to urgently move away. The main thing in any dispute is to take your time and be attentive to exactly how the pressure is applied in order to find the weaknesses of this method.
3. Use your benefits. It is best to use the same strategies as your opponent - to find the support of third parties or authorities, your own merit or experience. However, do not overdo it: your task is to extinguish the conflict by balancing forces, and not to provoke a new one by transferring the manipulator into the status of a victim.
4. Negotiate. Now that the manipulator's strategy has been reversed and he cannot unconditionally dictate his terms to you, you have an option that suits both of you equally. Offer compromise solutions. If it is possible to forever avoid contact with the manipulator, it is worth cutting off all the ends and no longer dealing with this person.

Remember that psychological pressure is a traumatic method of influence, and it is better not to resort to it unnecessarily. And if you can't handle the pressure on your own, don't be afraid to ask for help.

Not every person is ready to admit to himself that he is easy to manage, the main thing is to choose the right motivation and methods of psychological pressure, let's talk about how to resist psychological pressure: methods. What might influence your decision? You go to the boss, with the firm intention of proving your case, but 15 minutes pass, and you start working again, unconditionally following the instructions of the boss. Or after a serious scandal with your husband, you begin to fulfill his requirements. Once in such a situation, only a few are able to understand that they have been subjected to psychological pressure.

Methods of psychological pressure

1. Guilt or no one is perfect

It is almost impossible to become perfect, perfect in everything. Quite often, we blame ourselves for this, try to find an excuse and fall into a depressive state. The manipulator skillfully uses the feeling of guilt, so you can create a wonderful object for manipulation, and exerting psychological pressure become several times easier. You can blame a person for anything, while choosing the most vulnerable places that mainly affect only personal qualities. How to resist psychological pressure, in this case? You must understand that you owe nothing to anyone, and you owe nothing. Every person has the right to be himself, regardless of his type of character, mannerisms or behavior. You can agree with the manipulator, but in the end the answer is “no”, the manipulator will be in a stupor, he certainly does not expect this.

2. Rhetorical questions

One of the most used methods of psychological pressure is rhetorical questions. For example, “Before you say something, you think?”, “You understand that you let us down?”, “How can you call you a friend after that?”. To resist this kind of psychological pressure, you can enter into an argument with the interlocutor, but do not forget that your decision and opinion is a priority for you.

3. Humiliation

The provision of psychological pressure of this kind aggressive people who failed to reach life purpose. For example, at an important meeting, someone starts discussing your appearance or social status, you unwittingly become a listener to this conversation. As a result, you are distracted from the essence of your speech. So you can fail important negotiations or purchase unnecessary goods. in this situation? In order not to break a big deal, it is advisable to concentrate all your attention on discussing your topic. Do not try to please everyone at once, and do not see each other at the provocation of the manipulator. As a last resort, you can ask the manipulator what is bothering him?

4. Mass psychological attack

This method of psychological pressure is used by both bandits and ordinary people. Its essence is to involve outsiders in a conversation in order to obtain positive result. This can be expressed in the form of calls to colleagues, friends or relatives. As a result, a person does everything to get rid of such increased attention in his direction. To cope with this pressure, explain to everyone that this problem does not concern you.

5. Threat as manipulation

This manipulation is used after some kind of crisis. For example, not long ago you had financial difficulties. Most effective method start threatening you. As a rule, behind such threats lies a desire to resolve the conflict peacefully. To resist psychological pressure of this type, try to ignore the manipulator, while doing your usual things. If the situation becomes out of control, you can try to solve it in more reasonable ways.

How to resist psychological pressure

There are simple tricks that allow you to confidently resist pressure and manipulation:

1. Closed postures. Cross your legs or arms to reject negative information.
2. Natural obstacles. Place any object in front of you and your opponent.
3. Mental obstacles. Mentally place a high wall in front of you and your opponent or put on a space suit.
4. Get your opponent out of his image. Imagine a competitor in some unusual way, for example, in a funny suit or naked.
5. Distracted attention. Your task is not to let the opponent concentrate. This can be done using different methods: jewelry, beautiful clothes, glossy magazines.

How to resist psychological pressure: methods - first of all, watch your actions and do not lose your mind, be confident in yourself, and do not show your opponent your anxiety and weakness.