What to do if you didn't go to college. What to do if the child did not enter the university

The enrollment campaign is underway at Russian universities in August. Not to find yourself in the lists of students for many is a tragedy. In fact, it’s even useful to break the classic “school-university-work” chain and try something new, psychologists say.

“Just think, you have a whole year when you are not pressed by a deadline, when you don’t have to urgently decide who you want to be: a doctor, philologist or engineer,” says psychologist Yevgeny Idzikovsky.

At the same time, no one prevents you from suffering, hating and blaming everyone, falling into depression and reading Camus in the evenings, he adds.

In Europe and the USA, many graduates take a gap year - a year of break. This is a time out to rest, find yourself and calmly decide what to do next.

Perhaps you will understand that the university is not the only way which you want to go after school.

Try different professions

Waiters, nannies, sales managers, photographers - many positions do not require a higher education diploma. Perfect option- Try yourself in your future profession. The company can get a job as an assistant, secretary or trainee. You will benefit from seeing the working kitchen from the inside. You don’t have to spend years studying a specialty that doesn’t suit you.

“Unfortunately, most schoolchildren think little about their future profession. At best, they idealize, at worst, they don’t think at all: the parents paid for the institute, which means they have to go. A year after school can be a great workout before adult life”, - says AlgorithmAstar economics teacher Alevtina Ivanushchenko.

Many students realize what they want too late, when they have already spent 4-6 years in classrooms. Therefore, often a dream profession is found only at 30 or even 40 years old. In order not to be disappointed, psychologists advise immediately "to make lemonade out of lemons."

When choosing a future job, you should rely not on the ratings of universities or professions, but on your personal interests. If you like video games - become a developer, test them or record streams. In any case, this is better than being a bad lawyer or economist.

In addition, the work will give financial independence from parents. You can spend the salary at your own discretion: enroll in courses, go on a trip, or set aside money to pay for tuition at a university.

Go to college or courses

In the US, many choose colleges and then get prestigious jobs. In Russia, this type of education is undeservedly underestimated. Going to college is easier than going to university. A diploma of secondary vocational education makes it possible to enter immediately into the second or even third year of the university.

“What prevents you from entering the secondary professional education the same direction? After it, you can get a higher education in a shortened time frame, while simultaneously starting to work in your specialty. The choice of such a direction of study should not be limited to your city,” advises the head of the Psyman Center Ekaterina Leonova.

Another option is to take courses in your chosen specialty. They will not give advantages when entering a university, but they will also take less time. Modern technologies offer a wide range of online courses, including the best foreign universities.

Courses are especially popular with representatives of creative professions - actors, artists, journalists or photographers. A talented student will definitely be noticed during classes, and it is quite possible that a higher education will not be needed.

Improve yourself

At school, I had to study according to the program for 11 years. Therefore, a free year is a rare chance to gain skills for which there was not enough time between lessons and preparation for the exam. Sculpting flowers, weaving braids, dancing, archery or driving a racing car - perhaps the hobby will drag on so much that it will become a future profession.

For the most enduring, there is a unique quest - the army. And to pass military service not only young people, but also girls. Women over 18 with a secondary education are allowed to serve under a contract if they manage to pass a medical examination and pass exams.

Start a blog about how you spend the year

This will not only become a psychological relief, but will also help attract new subscribers, and, possibly, find new ways of development.

“Perhaps you will be donated a lot of money for a new masterpiece or offered to rent a cruel and merciless Russian art house,” says Idzikovsky.

Prepare for admission

If you haven't changed your mind, try again in a year. First, there will not be such a strong psychological pressure: you will go to a university not under the coercion of your parents and because “everyone enters”, but of your own free will.

“As soon as the former student understands that teachers no longer put pressure on him, that he has no responsibility to the school and teachers, but only responsibility to himself, it will be much easier to take this step, because it will need to be done for yourself, and not for others, ”says Ekaterina Safonova, a psychologist at the I Am a Parent portal.

Secondly, nothing will distract from the receipt. You can devote all your free time to preparing for the exam - hire tutors, go to courses at a university or study on your own. It is likely that the points will be enough to enroll in Russian universities free of charge.

Perhaps, after a year of break and the experience gained, there will be a desire to enter a foreign university. American diploma or European University will give you more prospects for your future career.

See the world

Traveling can help broaden your horizons. Of course, not all graduates can afford to spend on vacation. There are many free programs, including for students. Volunteers are not waiting for five-star hotels, but you can see new countries, learn or improve foreign language, make interesting acquaintances around the world.

For example, taking care of children in Africa, studying medicine in Nepal, or diving to the bottom of the Andaman Sea in Thailand to clean it of garbage is a real adventure. In addition, volunteer experience will be useful in the future when applying for a job.

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arrogantly ... it's just that our eldest was always very independent and said that there was no need to help in the entrance questions, "everything herself." The faculty itself (I don’t need advice, I know it myself), you don’t need to apply to another university (“why? I’ll enter here), there’s no need to put a tick on “commerce”, I’ll go to the budget). Well, something like that))). Now she is 27, she is the same))). All by herself. Salna
yes, of course, I always feel sorry for applicants of creative universities, they have to take much more, and several creative ones and the Unified State Examination, then all the points are added together.
Because of this feature, sometimes it’s impossible to even apply to two universities, not to mention 5. That's when she applied again and applied to the NGAHa and Sibstrin, there was a layering of one schedule of creative exams on another, she had to go to the selection committee, somehow get out.
And with the youngest daughter, who entered 2 years ago in Moscow, the situation is also the same, a narrowly focused profession was chosen, she decided to enter at two, hoping that she would be able to run between two universities (VGIK and another one, I don’t remember, on the outskirts of Moscow) as a result were layering, or in a row on the same day, but there was not enough time to get from one institute to another (3 hours), so in the end I had to choose where to continue participating in the entrance rounds, I chose VGIK and ... entered)). By the way, first for commerce, this is also cool, there is a huge competition, out of 400 people one group is 24 people, of which 10 are budget places. And after the end of the 2nd course, this summer, for excellent studies for two years, unexpectedly for all of us .... she was transferred to the BUDGET))). We really still do not believe in this happiness. And you don’t even have to pay for a hostel, commercial 4t.r pay, and state employees 1 ruble! I completely agree about the fact that there will be time to think about the choice, and not to break somewhere, just to get there.
I entered a long time ago, there was no USE yet. Thanks to my parents, who did not put pressure on me and gave me the right to choose. Went back to school after 5 years! after graduation. I did it myself, without blasphemy and money. During this time, I realized where I want to study, I understood where my place in life is in general. Studied, but not the right word, just flew in pairs. I was extremely interested. It was exactly mine.
So, OWN is never too late. Sometimes ALIEN by ... Tanich7, right choice. Purposefully went to the goal. It's better than going where there were enough points and then regretting it. But presumptuous, did you regret that you did not apply to other universities, in other cities for similar areas? Tanich7
What good fellows you all are. Good luck to your daughter in her chosen profession.
And what USE subjects required in NGAA? You write that your daughter finished some item. Those. act not only on results creative competition, but also USE scores are taken into account? Good day everyone! With the eldest daughter, we found ourselves in such a situation. It was... 8 years ago. Studied well, no problems required USE passed remarkably, by profession everything was decided a long time ago, she graduated from an art school, studied at the preparatory courses of the university. But ... a little too much with arrogance)). I applied to only one university - NGAA, only to one faculty, and, moreover, I deliberately did not check the box "if I am considering a paid option for studying", in her opinion, nothing foreshadowed a different outcome than receipts for the budget. The creative faculty, the Unified State Examination did not solve much. Several creative lengthy exams. And then ... something didn’t go well, then the place was unlucky (the light fell unsuccessfully), then something else ... in short, it didn’t arrive! Shock. Tragedy. ALL classmates of a successful gymnasium entered where they wanted, they say, but I’m not, I’m mediocre, a loser .... I got sick ... after 5 days. x for high school students). She immediately got a job at the NGAA to work as a laboratory assistant (in her case, the library, by the way, turned out to be a very useful thing, a file cabinet, the ability to restore the binding for real, again, everything is official, seniority, salary, albeit a small one. And what kind of women work there -librarians!, people with higher education and big hearts, they have developed (and still) wonderful relationships. And so we didn’t see our daughter for a year from 8 am to 9 pm, because half a day work, half a day courses. And here is a new "ambush" - they made changes and the universities of Russia added new obligations to the Unified State Examination, and ours too. My daughter had to prepare for another Unified State Examination in addition and take it in one of the schools of the city in the direction of the District Education Department.
And one more important detail - we organized a meeting for her - a conversation with a person who graduated from this university and it suddenly turned out that she entered the wrong department at all! Based on her skills, desires and ideas about the future profession, one must enter another. It was luck!
result - entered the next year on the BUDGET. In NGAA, at another faculty. Of course, now even in the second university (Sibstrin, just in case) and the maximum faculties, and a tick on the "fee" ...)).
Moreover, she did not leave after the 4th year, as many did, with a bachelor's degree, but completed her studies for 6 years, defended herself.
I believe that whatever happens is for the best! and this way is also not bad.
By the way, my husband and I supported her in everything and did not pressure her, we tried to instill in her confidence in her own strength.
good luck and kindness to everyone)))
You could just go to graduate school. And then there are other options.
There are completely legal ways, without fake certificates, etc. How did you decide it yourself? If it’s impossible for health reasons, then he won’t decide on his own. The rest are liable for military service, even a blue, even a red diploma. If only graduate school

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Dear friend, if you are reading this article, it means that one major failure happened in your life: you did not enter the coveted university. Let's leave the reasons behind the brackets, because you tried.
Or do you calculate your chances of success in advance and long before the exams ask yourself the question: “ What should I do if I don't get into college?". Such foresight is commendable, but rather pessimistic.

Possible options:

So, what to do if you didn’t enter a university after grade 11? First you need to understand that because of your failure, the apocalypse will not happen, the birds will continue to chirp outside the window, which means that the first thing after a failure is to collect yourself from a sad substance into a cheerful bunch and move on. In what direction to move? There are many options open before you, you just have to choose the one you like or try them all in turn. We guarantee that you will have a very rich and interesting life.

Get into college

Now, voices in support of secondary specialized education are sounding louder, although earlier many underestimated it. In the US and Europe, for example, it's normal to go to college and then get a college degree or/and get a job. Why is Russia worse?

Choose a college that is similar to your target university. If you were preparing for university exams, but for some reason did not pass them, you have retained your knowledge, and it will be enough to enter college. Do not rush to the first college you come across: visit its website, study all available information, chat with those who studied or study there. Try to mentally "embed" the college in your life path. Perhaps this option will lead you to a brighter future.

After studying in college, you will be able to continue your studies at a university, perhaps in the one that you unsuccessfully stormed the first time. Some universities accept college graduates immediately for the second or third year.

Get higher education in other ways

The goal of your life is higher education, and here such a failure. What to do if you did not enter the university on a budget, but the diploma of the "tower" is the limit of your dreams?

• Find out about the benefits your target university. Do you fit into one of the above categories?
• Hoping for a second thread. The recruitment of applicants is carried out in two stages, and those who did not enter the first wave may well be in the second. Finally, the lists of the lucky ones received are formed on the Day of Knowledge, so until this day, not everything is lost.
• Go to extramural. If you passed the Unified State Examination, and did not get the required number of points at the entrance examinations to the university, you can transfer to distance learning. It is completely wrong to think that distance learning is inferior. Rather, on the contrary: you will have the opportunity to combine study and work in your chosen specialty, so that upon completion of your studies, you will become both a theorist and a practitioner at the same time. After studying for two or three years at the "correspondence school", you can transfer to day department and get a diploma of the winner!

Try again next year

No one forbids repeating attempts several times. In a year you may well pass entrance tests again, and perhaps this attempt will be successful. The worries of a newcomer will be left behind, because you have already been here. You will have a whole year to prepare for admission, and there are a lot of preparation options.

• Self preparation. You already know what subjects you will need to retake the entrance exams. Get plenty of benefits, surf the Internet - the perfect way to prepare for introverts who prefer loneliness!
• Group lessons. If you are an extrovert, that is, a lover of communication, group lessons is your option. After all, you are not the only applicant who wants to enter the university of your dreams. Unity is your strength. Some subjects, such as English, are best practiced as a team.
• Lessons with a tutor. Individual lessons are preferable if you do not intend to share the teacher's attention with other students. Training can be conducted both in the real world and in the virtual world, that is, via Skype. Make sure that the classes are taught by a qualified specialist, otherwise you will waste your money.

Take a year off

Another option for what to do if you can’t enter a university is to ask yourself the question, do you need to do it. Maybe your purpose is something else. In the same USA, many school graduates take a break year (gap year), during which they comprehend themselves and the world. While you are young, not constrained by family and obligations, nothing prevents you from hitchhiking to Paris, volunteering in South Africa or getting a job as a waiter in a small Irish town. Traveling and working in your own country or abroad, you will gain a colossal life experience to help you rethink your values ​​and goals.

If there is no financial opportunity to travel, you may well engage in self-development at home. In addition to preparing for admission in a year (if your dream is strong), you can take online courses in various areas, visit exhibitions, read books, in a word, do everything that you did not have enough time for while studying at school and preparing for exams .

To get a job

If you notice in yourself the abilities of Julius Caesar, then you will be able to combine self-development and preparation for re-passing exams with hired labor. Yes, not the highest positions are open before you, but even great people had to start from the bottom. Working as a call center operator, promoter, waiter can be a great start for your career, help you get pocket money, give you the necessary life experience.

Study job advertisements in your city, ask friends and relatives if they need a workforce in your person. Try to choose a direction that interests you, because with diligence and diligence it is possible career. For example, if your area of ​​interest is designing houses, you can become an assistant in the design workshop. Start small and aim for growth. You can easily become a real professional based on experience, and only then, if you wish, you will receive a higher education in the correspondence department, without interrupting work. Just like that, for show.

Serve in the army

If you are a guy who does not have any contraindications that provide exemption from military service, this year after the unsuccessful passing of the exams, you can spend it by repaying the debt to the Motherland. This is preferable to hiding from the draft board twice a year until the age of 27. So, one of the answers to the question: what to do if you did not enter the university - the army.

Since this is a very important step that can lead to both positive and negative consequences, be sure to discuss this issue with knowledgeable people. Let those who served and those who are not going to the army share their stories with you. The more opinions you listen to, the easier it will be for you to make your own decision.

So, here are just a few answers to the question of what to do if you haven’t entered a university. As you can see, your failure can be the beginning of a grand life journey.

May 22, 2018 Maria Zhukova

Results will be announced soon admission campaign- children and their parents will find out which university they entered. But what if not? What if your child didn't get into the university they wanted? Should I despair, tear my hair out and go where there were enough points? How to be - advice is given by scientist and writer Vladimir Spivakovsky and practicing psychologist Vera Romanova.

Vera Romanova, candidate of psychological sciences, practical psychologist

A person should have different experiences, and refuse negative emotions, from the fact that it happened, it is not necessary. Give yourself plenty to worry, cry - you need, and then think about how this situation is useful for your life. At one time, I entered everywhere, anywhere, except for the specialty that I wanted to enter - I dreamed of getting into customs. As a result, I decided not to lose a year and went to psychology, English and literature. And after the first session, I realized that I got to the right place.

Of course, we live in a world of estimates. And when such a situation occurs with admission to a university, the first thought is: “What will my friends, classmates, teachers say? That I'm a loser!" And naturally, there are people who will say so. External evaluation depresses this situation, and in fact, this is the main experience that the child and his parents face. Based on this:

1. It is important to understand how I evaluate myself, to fix my own point of experience: “Do I really feel what is happening to me? Or is it not entirely up to me, I just got into such circumstances? But was it really, when I was preparing for exams, I realized my dream, and not my parents, for example?

2. The current situation can be perceived as a way to start everything from scratch, anew. You need to clarify your dream and ask yourself: what kind of person do I dream of becoming, who do I see myself in life?

3. And then decide what to do next. For example:

– we will restore the lost, so that everything will continue as it is accepted in society (we will prepare for another year, go to tutors, hand over documents again);

- we can go for help (for example, I myself can’t do anything, but they can tell me which courses to take in order to enter; where to get a job if we decide to work);

– we can look for alternative options (enroll in Coursera courses, for example, find a program to study in foreign university. But parents need to understand that if your child left this country to study in Europe, for example, then he left here forever, because it will be very difficult for him to return and live here with pro-European thinking).

4. You can build your life not only on the principle of "make a dream come true", but create a real project of your life. Do the following exercise with your children, answer 4 questions:

What do I want to change/do in my life?

- what I do not want?

Who will help me with this?

- and who will interfere with this?

After answering the question “What do I not want?”, sweep these ideas out of your head right away. Focus on answering the question: “What do I want to change?”. The criterion for the success of a project is the degree of its feasibility: will I be able, given the opportunities that I have, to take and implement it, or have I fantasized? We can rely on fate, on relatives, on the education system, but we can only rely on ourselves. If you say that you can do it, then your project is quite feasible, and the rest is to find resources. Hint: your resource is hidden in the answer to the third question.

Vladimir Spivakovsky, scientist, writer, businessman, president of the Grand Corporation

What to do if the child is not enrolled anywhere? There are several options.

First. Get upset, get depressed, blame everyone around, curse fate and be disappointed in people and in the world.

Second. Take note of this trouble and consider several ways out of the situation. It may even turn out that not everything is so bad. Millions of people didn't enroll in the first year, and they didn't feel much loss afterwards.

The third. Consider that (how to put it mildly), our domestic education is generally very weak, and after studying for 5-6 years, you will not know and be able to do anything, and there will be no work. So…

Option four. If you have brains and character, or at least one of these two, then you should strive. You don't need a lot of money there, and the prospects are much brighter. Thousands have left and have no regrets.

Fifth. Follow the path of fashion and utility. To enroll in some, remotely, preferably western, there are a lot of them now. If there are problems with English language, then here you need to decide for yourself a fundamental thing: why do you need a higher education if you don’t have free English? Nowadays, this is simply a must. So go online.

Sixth. Go to work. From my point of view, this is the coolest way out, since the understanding of "work" is now valued much higher than any diploma. Therefore, if you choose where to work, then choose the company of your dreams and go there for any position, even the smallest one. Because the turnover is so fast right now that you can even get promoted.

Seventh. Sit on the neck of mom and dad and make them nervous for a whole year.

In general, do not hang your nose, guys. Previously, even on this topic, the song was like this: "If the bride leaves for another, then it is not known who was lucky." The university you weren't accepted to is that bride... From every failure, be able to extract good luck.

Your hopes were not justified, but you should not sound the alarm. The child did not get worse just because the passing score was too tough for him. He will have many more opportunities to prove his professional suitability. Do not look for the guilty, calm down and realize that life goes on.

2. Support the child

The child is ashamed in front of you and afraid of tomorrow. He, perhaps for the first time in his life, faced defeat and was confused. Don't escalate the situation. Show that you are ready to support him, no matter what.

3. Find the positives

Look at it differently. You may have avoided the inevitable exclusion, the hassle of transferring to another university, or something worse.

In the US, many students deliberately skip a year after graduation. This time - it is called a gap year - young people try to spend it usefully: they work, travel, relax, help their parents, make acquaintances, look for themselves. When it comes time to apply, they feel a responsibility, not a coercion. Your child will also grow up in a year and understand what he needs.

4. Look for alternatives

According to the rules Order of the Ministry of Education and Science of Russia dated 10/14/2015 N 1147 (as amended on 04/20/2018) "On approval of the procedure for admission to study in educational programs of higher education - bachelor's programs, specialist's programs, master's programs" the applicant can submit documents and their copies at five educational institutions, in each - for three specialties. That is, you have as many as 15 attempts. If it didn't work out at one university, try your luck at another. If there are few points, select the evening, part-time, correspondence department or.

5. Go to Plan B

Ask your child what he is going to do next. Most go to work, but there are other options.

Job or internship

According to law "Labor Code of the Russian Federation" dated December 30, 2001 N 197-FZ (as amended on July 19, 2018) You can start your career at the age of 16. True, up to 18 years with some restrictions. Yesterday's schoolchild cannot be engaged in hard, harmful and dangerous work, work in the gambling business and nightlife and more than 35 hours a week.

Without work experience, they are taken by couriers, handymen, posters, promoters, to fast food restaurants. Ask your friends: perhaps someone needs an intern or a replacement for the holidays. You can also find a lot of offers on social networks.

Volunteer program

A safe and budget option to go on a trip, see the world, gain experience and do a good deed. There are many programs available to schoolchildren: you can harvest, participate in archaeological excavations, help the sick or save animals.

The child will receive invaluable experience in exchange for his help. Many organizations provide free accommodation, food, and travel expenses. In some cases, you will have to pay only for the flight and visa processing. Sometimes you need to cover organizational fees. If there is no money, place an application for Volunteer Forever - they will help you raise the necessary amount.

Here are some websites that will help you find a volunteer program:

Army

Young men who are deemed fit for military service must serve a year in the army. If the child does not intend to enter graduate school, then it is better to respond to the call immediately. The results of the exam are valid for four years, and you will not have to retake the exam next year.

In addition, those who have served are provided with benefits upon admission:

• The right to free access to preparatory courses.
• Advantage for enrollment with equal scores with other applicants.

6. Prepare for admission next year

If a USE results do not allow you to break into any coveted university, you have to spend a year preparing. This time you don't have to pay for tutors. The child can go to work and engage in self-education. The blessing of opportunities for this